(Not) Watching stuff

The first time you see your tiny Reception child up on stage dressed as a shepherd in a tea towel or an angel with tinsel on their head, it is a proud and emotional moment. Your eyes well up with tears at the sight of them. Then there’s the first sports day, when it doesn’t matter to you if they win their race or if they stop and pick daisies. Because that’s your child and they’re just so damn special and you’re just so proud…

Most likely, their dad is watching too. Perhaps their grandparents. Because this is a really big deal.

Then there’s the extracurricular stuff too – I remember my daughter performing her dance at the end of a dance class and there was me, my husband, my parents and my boys there to watch her! The very first time my daughter and I danced in a show, we were watched by my husband, my parents, my boys and my brother-in-law.

Fast forward 11 years from my eldest’s first nativity and the shine of watching stuff has worn off in our family. There’s just too many of these priceless occasions. And having too many of them starts to make them a bit less priceless. Especially when your baby is taller than you and doesn’t crack a smile.

Last year, my husband and boys opted out of watching my daughter’s dance show. This year, my parents did too. They’ve seen too many dance shows, too many sports days and too many assemblies.

Only one dedicated member of our family goes along to everything she possibly can. Me.

In 2016 I have been to see (and I may well have forgotten some):

To me, those moments are still priceless, just in a slightly different way. And it’s not fair to ignore my daughter’s sports day just because we’ve seen her brothers in too many.

My kids aren’t getting any younger and I’m aware these moments will stop soon. My son is in year 10. We’ve probably got one more school concert left before he moves into 6th Form. Will he still want to play his violin and perform in concerts then? He’s not even keen to perform in them now. And my daughter is in year 5. We’ve got one more year of primary school stuff and then we will say goodbye to primary school for good after 12 years. So there’s no way I’m going to miss out on those last few precious opportunities to see her perform or run or swim with her school.

The end of term may be just days away, but I’ve still got my daughter’s sports day to watch and my younger son’s drama performance. Then it’ll be September and we’ll start a whole new year of rugby matches and school concerts…

Do you watch as many of your children’s performances and sports days as possible? Does their dad watch as many as you do?

School, Daughter, Hobbies, Sport

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Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. This year Max didn’t want anyone to bother coming to sports day – that’ll be the teenage hormones kicking in then! Mind you I was quite relieved – it goes on all day, he was doing one event, and it is really hard to get reliable info about what time the events are! And Syd missed his because he was ill! Having just taken a job in a school I may now have to miss stuff – but am hoping as I am working at Syds school I might still manage to sneak and watch assemblies and shows – otherwise his Dad will go so he has someone there!

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    • I’m sure school will let you sneak off to watch Syd! I was really surprised that my younger son wanted me to watch sports day – and it turned out to be actually two days! There were hardly any parents there and I’m sure he won’t want me there next year, so I just made the most of him still appreciating me 🙂

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  2. I wasn’t able to go to A’s sports day last week and that is the first one I’ve missed and I was so gutted! (Her grandparents did) I think it is really important to go and watch these things if you can, yes there are lots but as you say, they will soon be over and as they get older, they don’t always want you there anyway.

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    • I would have been gutted to miss the sports day too! When I had a ‘proper’ job, I always took the morning off especially. Parents aren’t even invited to my eldest’s sports day, so I couldn’t have gone along anyway. I may only have my daughter’s year 5 and 6 sports days left!

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  3. Having an only child makes it a bit easier as there are less things to go to. So far I have managed to go to most things because of working from home. If I can’t go I’ve been able to send grandparents which is easy as the school is close by. At secondary school it will be harder to do that, but I guess there is probably less to go to. I think you’re right not to neglect your daughter’s events though – it’s not her fault that she’s the youngest.

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    • It must be much easier with only one child! I’ve done a pretty good job of watching everything over the years. I feel a bit sorry for my daughter that my husband and parents are going to less stuff now than they used to. Like you say, it’s not her fault she’s the youngest!

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  4. There is just so much to go and see even with one child, it’s completely understandable when you get parents that start missing things for the 3rd. It’s so nice you still try to go through, they really don’t last forever and as soon as they hit their teens they sometimes don’t want you there!

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    • It’s surprising how much they do that parents ‘need’ to go and watch and at this time of year there’s so much. I’ve probably only got two sports days left, but I hope my daughter still does concerts and drama performances when she goes to secondary school. Parents aren’t invited to sports day at my eldest’s school and I don’t think my younger son will want me to watch him in year 8. I was very happy he invited me along in year 7!

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  5. I watch all my girls school performances….I don’t want to miss any as they stop so soon. Since my eldest started senior school she has had nothing for us to see so I am glad I made the most of it when she was at Primary school…

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    • That sounds like the right attitude to have! There’s very little to watch at my eldest’s school, just one or two concerts a year. There’s more performances at my younger son’s secondary school and I guess it will be the same for my daughter when she goes to secondary.

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  6. I tried to be there as much as I could when it came to sports days, ballet and school plays but it was sometimes tricky as I worked full time when the girls were small. Mr A tried his best to be there when I couldn’t make it. Well done for still going, it can’t be easy when you’ve seen it all so many times before. They grow up too fast though and I can’t imagine you’d want to miss any of it!

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    • It’s really hard to keep up with it all when you work! It’s so much easier for me now I work at home, so I definitely want to be there for the last few times before they’re all too big!

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  7. We’re still at the stage where it’s all shiny and new, but one of the things that I love about my flexible job is the fact that I’ll be able to be there for all those moments. Whether I’ll want to or not in ten years time is a different story…
    Nat.x

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    • That’s what I love about my work too! It was always stressful when I worked in an office 10 miles ago wondering if I could get the time off to go to sports day etc. Hopefully you’ll still love it all in 10 years! x

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  8. I am the main ‘goer’ to Grace’s school events – although Ross does attend with me when he can as does her father. She is lucky in that we are all self-employed so in some ways it is easier for us to get there. We are all going to her last sports day at this school and I love being able to support her 🙂 I am with you in the fact that this moments are just ‘one-off’s’ and won’t be there forever 🙂

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    • Absolutely! We need to make the most of them! It’s great that you are able to go along to so many of Grace’s school events.

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  9. Yep I’m still turning up at everything – for exactly the reason that you mention – it’s not her fault that she’s an only child. However, I am guilty of making much less effort in school dressing up days etc – the novelty has certainly worn off there! XX

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    • Ha ha, oh yes! I’m totally with you on that! I’ve never been great at those anyway and by year 5 the kids aren’t usually so bothered. In our house, if it can’t be made from a pair of school shorts and a baker boy cap, it’s not happening! x

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  10. That’s great you’re able to go to as many as possible. I’d love to go to all (even having to sit through everyone else’s kids) but it’s just not possible with work. I go his class assembly, go in for open mornings because I can nip in quickly before school to look at his school book, sports day, and for relevant target assemblies, but I have to ask N to choose which one. Quite often 2 weeks on the trot are Friday afternoon events. It’s my shorter day, so if I work from home I can cut my lunch down and just finish work 15 minutes earlier, but I can’t do that every week.

    I’ve not yet seen him play tennis because it finishes at 4, then he gets dropped off at after school club at nursery and I pick him up at 5.30. So I’m looking forward to September when he’s starting tennis at the tennis club and I’ll be able to take him and watch.

    Thanks for linking up #schooldays

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  11. I am like you and go to every performance and sports day, though not the teens as no parents allowed lol (or is that what he just tells me). Husband tends to miss the sports days as they are in the middle of the day, but he tries to get to any other performances that are later in the afternoon or the evening. I know it won’t last for ever will it x

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