Return from the French exchange

My son’s bus arrived back at school just before midnight, a week after he’d set off for his French exchange. I hadn’t been worried for him, but I’d spent a lot of time wondering what he was doing. I know he’s very resilient, but I really wanted him to have a good time.

And he did!

I imagined he’d be tired, with it being nearly midnight and his body an hour ahead, but he was full of tales and chatter. He’d had just the kind of unprecedented freedom I remembered having when I was there (in my day, we went to a bar every day – three English girls and an English boy, with three French boys and a French girl).

Every day after school they’d gone straight to the park. On the last night they’d stayed there until 10.45pm! The boy lives close to the school and my son suspects his mum couldn’t drive. The dad who was a doctor who was going to save my son’s life if he’d reacted to peanuts? He saw him twice.

We laughed when we saw the information sheet about the boy’s family. Four siblings! If that wasn’t out of the frying pan into the fire, we didn’t know what was. My son would be grateful for the peace of only two siblings when he got home. But it turns out he’d only written four siblings on the form because there wasn’t room for 10 names. TEN. The boy has TEN siblings. He is the fourth of 11 children. My son didn’t even know some of the siblings’ names. He suspected there was one, maybe even two sets of twins, but he didn’t know.

Apparently the house was ‘massive’ and the family ‘loaded’. They had a sheep in the garden and a nanny to help the mum out with the many kids.

He’d managed fine with the food, which was more adventurous than he was used to. It turns out the reason the boy and his family are pescetarian is that they are Muslims. No doubt they specifically wanted to be matched with a vegetarian child, so that was a win for my son.

I wanted to see photos of them. I wanted to see photos of the town to see if it jogged my memory. There were no photos. The disposable camera I’d given him came home unopened and his phone was full of pictures of alligators and fish, taken at the alligator museum and aquarium he’d visited.

He told us about the girls crying when they had to go home, about his friend being sick on the boat. He moaned at having to spend €10 on an adapter so he could charge his phone. How did we forget that?

He talked more in that hour than he would normally talk in a week. It was lovely to see and hear the enthusiasm in his voice.

He opened his suitcase in the middle of the floor. It was like a bomb had gone off in there. It was every bit as disorganised as his rucksack after Scout camp.

Among the tangled clothes, he found presents, which the family had given to him for us. Tradition dictates that you take a present when you visit, but they’d sent him home with presents too – a box of biscuits and some ornaments. They’d also given him a big bag of cakes for the journey. His emergency rations of Coco Pop bars and Hula Hoops was, remarkably, still intact.

My son had the best experience, and I’m so pleased for him. Now I’m really looking forward to welcoming the French boy to our house.

And the three EpiPens? All unused.

Biscuits, France, French exchange


Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Wow what an adventure and 10 children!!!! That must have been an experience, especially with their pet sheep too 🙂 He sounds like he had a really fantastic time there. The exchange boy is going to find your house very quiet isn’t he?

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    • He had an amazing time! It went better than I could possibly have hoped. I think our house will seem very quiet in comparison (and you can’t often say that about our house!).

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  2. Aw it sounds like he has had an amazing adventure over there. I remember the French exchanges going on when I was at High School but I hated French so never wanted to go ! Just imagine how quiet your house will sound to the French boy when he comes over with having 10 siblings. Phew x

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    • It will seem very strange to him! I always loved French (until A Level, when I hated it!) and the French exchanges were a highlight of my time at school! x

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  3. Oh that’s brilliant Sarah, I’m glad he had such a great time. Isn’t it funny when they do things that we did as kids. How brilliant! Glad you’re looking forward to having him back. 10 kids? Amazing!

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    • I know, it’s crazy! I’m looking forward to him coming now I know that they got on so well together. It wouldn’t have been much fun if they didn’t!

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  4. I never went on a French exchange but I imagine it to be quite an adventure, especially for a teenager. Soudns like he had a very positive experience. I hope my daughters can have the same one day.

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    • It’s a brilliant experience for a teenager, a real taste of freedom! He had a better time than I could even have hoped for.

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  5. Ah lovely, sounds like he had an amazing time. I was never allowed to go on French exchange at school, my mum was too worried about something bad happening. I rebelled a bit when I went to uni, ended up living there for a year. I think French exchange is a fabulous thing to do, I’m so glad he enjoyed it.x

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    • Wow, must have been strange to live there for a year! I think a lot of people are worried about something bad happening and more people are reluctant to do exchanges these days. I loved mine so I was very happy for my son to have the experience and glad he enjoyed it as much as he did 🙂

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  6. What an amazing experience for him. Ten children! I would have had to go into hiding. I’m so glad he enjoyed it. The photo comment made me laugh. My niece went to China last year with her school and the only photos she took whilst there were selfies!

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  7. I was wondering how he got on, that is brilliant that he enjoyed it so much. I did chuckle at the bit about the big family though, he didn’t get any peace and quiet then? It is such a brilliant experience for him and great that you have blogged about it as it is good for other parents to know that exchanges can be such a positive experience.

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  8. Good heavens! 11 children! It sounds like he had a fantastic time and a relief for you that it all went well.
    It’s great that you’ve blogged about this as such a positive experience.
    Good luck with the reciprocal visit and thanks for linking up with #SSAmazingAchievements

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