Moving is stressful

If I had a quid for everyone who told me ‘moving is stressful’ I could afford a fair few pots of paint. Apparently it’s the second most stressful thing you can do, after divorce. What, even more stressful than bereavement and terminal illness?

But I got that. Yeah, moving is stressful. I’ve done it before and it was, well, STRESSFUL.

Husband and I plus 28 week bump moved out of a one bedroom flat with very few possessions with just a van and my parents to help. And that was stressful. In the middle of the afternoon I lay on a mattress in the spare room in my bra and cried.

A few years later, husband and I plus a 3 year old and a 1 year old, moved on 21st December. We moved three miles across town with the aid of some pretty good packers and movers. It was stressful.

But now I realise, those stresses were NOTHING. Because both those moves were stressful for one day.

Moving down the road from our old house to the rented house? Stressful for one day.

Moving round the corner to an old people’s house from the 80s? Really flipping stressful.

Now I get it. Moving really IS stressful. Because the stress doesn’t just last for one or two days or even a week. It goes on and on.

I wake up in the morning thinking about painting. I trip over boxes and rolled up bits of discarded carpet. It is never ending.


And if that’s not stressful enough, I’m stressed about the things I’m not doing – helping the kids with their homework, changing beds, doing the hoovering, putting the washing away (let’s be honest, I’m not even doing much washing because the machine isn’t even in my own house). The blog is clinging on by the skin of its teeth and thank goodness I’ve got no school governors’ meetings right now, because there’s no way I’d be able to cope with those. I’d like to do more for Team Honk but right now I just can’t think about it. My job is up in the air and I can’t give it a moment’s thought. I am completely overwhelmed by the house.

I long to come home to my new house and feel happy and relaxed that I’m home and it’s all neat and tidy and exactly as we would like it, not to be doing a slalom course across the landing through more shifted furniture, more paint pots and ladders, more half empty boxes and more stuff for the tip.

But we’re not quite there yet. When exactly does moving stop being stressful?

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. You will get there soon. You will get there soon. I think once you have your washing machine in and your new bathroom fitted it make a huge difference because at least you can go somewhere to relax a bit! Sending you lots of de-stressing vibes x

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  2. Yes – it is really stressful. Everything takes longer than you think, every job creates another one you hadn’t planned or budgeted for! But, it’s all worth it in the end :))) x

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  3. Definitely not more stressful than bereavement and terminal illness but yes, massively stressful.

    We have a few small-medium jobs on the go at the moment and so it will be for the best part of the next 5-8 years, I guess. Can’t wait til budget allows us to get to stage of having some quality big renovation action going on with the most carbunkley of fittings and infrastructure. Patience is something I’m having to learn with this house :-/

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  4. Thanks very much, ladies! I really need those de-stressing vibes, Tas! And you’re absolutely right about the washing machine, that will make a big difference!
    Very true, WallyMummy – it’s like a big bottomless pit of money and every job does indeed create another one!
    5-8 years, Beta Mother! I shudder at the thought. I’m thinking get through the big stuff now, then give ourselves some breathing space until we hit ourselves with the new kitchen in a year or two!

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  5. Keep going hun – it’ll be so worth it in the end! It’s a shame you’re tee-total, I always found a glass of wine extremely therapeutic at the end of a stressful day!

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  6. It is a complicated nightmare isnt it! But once it is done you will feel at home for many years too come, and this little spell will be soon forgotten xx

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  7. Moving is so stressful, but once it is all done you can sit back and enjoy it 🙂 aww hope you have a stress free weekend 🙂

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  8. Thanks, ladies!
    I keep telling myself that too, Sonya! We are intending to stay here forever, so all the hard work will definitely be worth it!
    I must say hubby has been enjoying the odd tipple of an evening, Izzie, which he doesn’t normally do! I’ve upped my takeaway pizza and chocolate intake!

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  9. This is the worst kind of stress as you want your home to be somewhere you can relax in. Having moved 10 times in 15 years, including moving into a house that needed a wall knocking down and another one putting up (done by us and parents-in-law), I feel your pain. However the end does come (eventually), and then it’s so worth it, and then you look back on it and it becomes dinner party conversation fodder. Until then, the absolute best of luck!

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  10. Thanks very much, FG! That’s what I keep telling myself! A short burst of ‘pain’ now and it’ll all be over. We’ll have an amazing house we can enjoy – and we can look back and laugh at the hard work and stress. Impressed that you moved that many times!

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