Overwhelmed

There was a week or so towards the end of the school holidays when I wanted it all over. I wanted the kids back at school. They were arguing, fighting, bullying, niggling. They were being nasty to each other and they were driving me mad. They needed the routine. So did I.

But be careful what you wish for…

Because being back at school means letters and cheques and emails. It mean dance lessons and Scouts and football. It means homework and after school clubs. It means meals in three sittings. It means packed lunches and early starts.

That’s always been hard. But, somehow, this term it seems to have got just a little bit harder.

And I’m feeling overwhelmed by it all.

Having three kids at three different schools isn’t easy. They all have different needs, different deadlines, different forms to fill in. Nothing is shared any more. It’s triple the work.

Taking my younger son to school by car is adding an extra 20 minutes to the start and end of each day. It’s not much, I know. I quite enjoy it in some ways. But it’s eating into time we already didn’t have. It means what was once a bit of a rush for an after school dance lesson has become a mad rush, with no time for drinks or snacks.

Mondays are bad. So are Tuesdays. Come to think of it, Wednesdays aren’t great either.

I’m cooking tea, while helping with homework, filling in a form for school and finding recycling to take to Explorers.

On Monday my daughter has two dance classes, in two different places. Then there’s Scouts, which doesn’t require me to give anyone a lift, but does require me to fill in letters and write cheques and try to calm down two completely hyper boys who are making endless toast and endless noise in the kitchen when they get in at 8.45pm.

On Tuesday my daughter and my younger son both have an after school club, then my daughter goes to her tutor. My eldest has started Explorers, even though he’s still at Scouts. That’s in a different village and requires a lift for him and his friend. More work for me.

Wednesdays are after school clubs for both the younger kids too, plus a double dance lesson for my daughter. She finally gets to eat at just after 7.

Thursdays are relatively quiet, with just one dance lesson for my daughter, and tutoring for my eldest.

The last time I checked, Fridays were a day of rest. Or a day of homework, because we don’t have much other time to do it. But I wouldn’t be surprised if I hadn’t forgotten something. My brain is overloaded right now.

Saturdays and Sundays are for relaxing and doing jobs around the house, plus homework and Parkrun. Then there’s football on Sunday afternoon for my younger son and his coach (my husband).

There will be school play rehearsals for my younger son soon – on weekdays and at weekends.

Right now, I think we did absolutely the right thing in giving up rugby. I couldn’t stretch myself much further.

I know what you’re thinking – either I should stop moaning or the kids should do less. You may be right on both points, but, individually, the kids aren’t doing that much. It’s just when you add it together, it’s a lot. It’s a lot for me, not for them. Because they don’t have to be involved in what their siblings are doing – they don’t have to be filling in forms and finding money and driving them different places. Only one person has to do that – me.

Over the holidays I managed to break my habit of waking ridiculously early. I was waking at 6 rather than 5. One day, but only one mind, I actually woke at 6.45. SIX FORTY FIVE. QUARTER TO SEVEN. Yes, to lots of people that’s still early, but to me it’s a miracle.

But now I’m back to seeing 4.45. Or maybe 4.26. Once I’ve seen those times, there’s no going back to sleep.

Tiredness doesn’t help with the endless round of lifts and forms to fill in.

I hope things ease up soon, because I won’t be able to keep up this sort of pace until they all leave school.

Car, Mini, 365

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. It’s funny isn’t it, you think things will get easier as kids get older. Like you I’m juggling 3 schools this year and I’m having to make big changes to the way I work just to keep my head above water. Don’t forget that it’s only the start of the year and the new routine and when it’s new it always seems worse. Have a read of Time Management for Manic Mums. I’ve learnt so many tips and tricks from this book that have saved me minutes and lots of minutes quickly add up to hours. Are there tasks like packed lunches you could delegate to the kids? Can you do any lift sharing? You MUST take some time for you or your health is going to suffer. Xx

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    • Thanks very much! I’ve ordered the book! I really do need to slow down a bit. Life is quite easy in the bit of the day when they’re out of the house – I’m working, but I”m also recharging my batteries!
      Ironically my next door neighbour drives to the same school, but she has her own two kids plus one other, so no room for mine! Hopefully we can share in the future. x

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  2. Phew Sarah I am exhausted just reading this. You really are superwoman and I am sure the kids are grateful for all that you do. Saying that my mum used to run me round nearly every night when I was younger, and I just used to take it for granted. Its not until you become that mum taxi yourself that you realise what she did. I can’t imagine how much paperwork comes with kids in 3 different schools. Its bad enough with 2 different schools. Hugs xx

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    • Thanks very much! The step up from two schools to three is huge! It’s partly because I’m having to drive to school for the first time and partly because the new school is very keen on extra-curricular activities! x

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  3. Oh dear Sarah, this doesn’t fill me with confidence! My two seem such hard work at the moment and I was hoping that things would get easier once they started school. Am I horribly mistaken?? I hope things calm down for you soon and you manage to get some rest.xx

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    • Sorry! You may be mistaken, I’m afraid. Kids don’t get easier, they just move the goalposts, so they might be able to go to the toilet themselves, but they refuse to do their homework or need lifts 27 different places instead! x

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  4. Wow Sarah that’s a lot of activities!! We’ve only just realised how much paperwork and sport/clubs there are just for one never mind 3! Honestly sometimes I think parenting is pretty much about spinning plates!

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    • It’s quite incredible how much paperwork you get! I think we may have to drop a couple of my daughter’s activities as she has no time for homework or relaxing (and nor do I!). Parenting is definitely about spinning plates!

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  5. Oh my goodness me!! Now I understand why my Mum was ALWAYS knackered with all 7 of us! This sounds like a nightmare – and no wonder you are feeling overwhelmed. I consider myself lucky that the worst I have is Grace having drama AND piano on Thursdays! I hope that it eases soon and that you find a way x

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    • Thanks very much! Either I will get used to it and it won’t seem so bad or we will have to give some stuff up. Your mum must have been incredible – seven kids! x

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  6. Oh I hear you on this and you make a great point about it not being too much for them, it’s just too much for us! My kids are the same – they don’t do all that much as individuals but collectively? It’s a total nightmare! Thursdays are our worst night, it’s all system go from the minute they leave school until 9.30pm. My husband does help with the lifts when I ask him. Couldn’t do it without him. He has no idea about all the admin though, that seems to be mum’s job!

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