Learning to drive

My son turned 17 in June this year and was determined to start learning to drive immediately. He kept telling me he would pass his test in August or September and I kept telling him it would be perfectly good to pass it around Christmas.

We gave him driving lessons for his birthday, although we didn’t specify how many – enough for him to pass his test in a ‘reasonable’ length of time. We weren’t highly organised in sorting him out with lessons, so he didn’t have a lesson on his birthday or the day after, even though we had an instructor lined up.

I was nervous about insuring him on my car – and even more so when I heard the cost! Rather than insure him for an entire year, I opted for 90 days’ temporary insurance – taken in three separate batches, costing £75 each. Yes, £75 a month to insure a learner on an 11 year old Mini. And the excess if he causes any damage is an eye-watering £600. But my husband is a great believer in practise being the key to learning to drive.

So, the day after his birthday, my son went for his first practise drive. He drove up and down a straight country lane – and my husband turned the car round for him before he drove back. The next day, he turned the car round himself. The next day, he drove up a longer country lane. The next day, he drove for miles through all the local villages.

By all accounts (his and my husband’s), my son was doing very well indeed. Maybe he would pass his test in August or September after all?

Learning to drive. Son, Driving, Teenager

He had his first driving lesson a week after his 17th birthday, by which time he already had seven or eight hours’ of practise under his belt.

For the first month, my husband continued to take him out almost daily, in addition to his weekly driving lessons. The ‘T’ word was mentioned after only four lessons.

It was finally time for me to get in the car with him. I had big expectations.

I was a little disappointed. His driving was pretty erratic. To be honest, it was what I’d expect of a learner after only a few weeks, but everyone had bigged his driving up so much, I’d been expecting more. Surely he was a long way off a test?

Life got in the way of practise in the second month, so he didn’t have as much. But he was still having his lessons and continuing to make good progress.

So he took his theory test. He DID work for it and was confident it would be easy. He passed the multiple choice section with flying colours, but unfortunately he failed the hazard perception element, which meant he’d failed his test. He was not a happy bunny. Especially because the bottomless pit of spending on him learning to drive didn’t include two theory tests, so he had to pay for the second one himself – at a cost of £23. Luckily, we managed to book him in for a test a week later, and he passed!

As he was continuing to make very good progress in his lessons, my son was able to book his actual test. On my fourth trip out with him, I could tell that his driving had improved a lot – he was much smoother and we both spotted another driver behaving like an idiot at the exact same time so his perception was coming on well too. It really felt like I was a passenger in the car with a driver, rather than someone supervising a learner. By this point, the main issue both my husband and the instructor had with his driving was that he was starting to drive too fast.

His test is at the start of October and he will have weekly lessons until then. The test cost £62 and my husband and I are not in agreement on who pays for a second test. For me, it’s not reasonable to expect someone to pass first time (I didn’t and nor did any of my family) and we should pay for a second test (but definitely not a third or fourth!). My husband fully expects him to pass first time (like he did) and therefore thinks that my son should pay for a second test himself.

Having a son learning to drive has been a relatively painless experience, if you don’t count the extortionate cost of the whole thing (lessons are £25 a pop and he will have had about 16 lessons before his test). I will be very happy if he passes, but also fearful of him being out on the road, not to mention the cost of the insurance (the insurance company wouldn’t be drawn on whether it would cost even more than for a learner, but I suspect it will!).

Watch this space…

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. £28 a pop here! We are at a similar stage but my daughter seems to have plateaued a bit. She put in for a test in November and although the instructor said that she might be able to bring that date forward to October, I think she’ll stick with it now. We don’t have much opportunity for her to practice and I really think she needs more before she’s ready to be let loose on the road! She did pass her theory first time though and is determined to pass asap. She was like your son – thinking September/October when she only started at the end of June! Err, I don’t think so.

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    • Good luck to her! It’s funny how they’re all so confident, isn’t it? I think the practise has been the key for my son as he had so much of it. My husband is amazing to spend so much time with him.

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  2. Oh dear, the speed thing is difficult isn’t it? If they get used to driving a bit quick, it’s really hard to reign it in just for the test. I think many of us would fail our tests now if we took them again. Thank goodness we don’t have to! Good luck to him when the day comes.

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    • Thanks very much! He has been making a real effort to slow down over the last couple of weeks, so I’m hoping that it becomes habit and not something he just does for the test. I don’t consider myself a particularly good driver, but I think I’d still pass a test! x

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  3. Oh wow I didn’t realise he would be going in for his test so soon, but fingers crossed for him. Eek I suppose we will have all this to come next August. Thankfully the 6th form offer driving lessons for £10 which will be an absolute god send. I remember having my very first lesson the day after I turned 17, and I think I passed around 6 months later (1st time so no pressure Morgan lol) x

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    • Wow, your school is amazing! -those lessons are a bargain – even less than we paid when I was learning! Yes, he’s done really well and the test is coming round fast!. It took me forever to learn, but luckily my son seems to have my husband’s genes rather than mine! x

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  4. Oh best of luck to him. The insurance and taking him out regularly sounds a great plan. I am loving the Young Driver lessons for my middle two boys now but our oldest passed first time. He had to pay for his lessons/test/insurance etc but we did help him out where we could. Personally I think it is such an important skill that if you can afford to pay for him to do a second test if needs be then why not. You have good kids and they do sound as if they work hard.

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    • The Young Driver lessons are great. I’m hoping we won’t need to pay for a second test, but we will see what happens! He’s certainly a much better driver than I was when I took my test.

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