School holidays are crap

After a boring October half-term, a quiet February half-term and an uneventful Easter holidays (unless you count people being ill and stuff getting cancelled as ‘eventful’), I’ve come to a sad realisation.

The school holidays, the holidays I spend six, seven or eight weeks (damn you, long autumn term) looking forward to, are crap.

Crap.

Boring.

With bigger kids, they’re just not fun any more.

Don’t get me wrong, they weren’t a big party before, but we enjoyed them. We didn’t have expensive days out, or any days out really. My husband still worked, he was never at home. I still worked a fair bit too, but we found time to relax.

We went for walks as a family. To the shops as a family. To the cinema as a family.

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AS A FAMILY.

We did stuff together. Me and the kids. Ordinary stuff, not exciting stuff. But it was a break from the norm. From the pressures of everyday life – school, work and the endless, endless hobbies and driving round in the mum taxi.

I enjoyed it and I think the kids did too.

But now my eldest does his own thing. He goes off with Explorers, to friends’ houses or to hang around town with friends. He asks for a lift and he’s gone. At some point, he may or may not phone me on someone else’s phone (his own being either accidentally left at home or out of charge) to ask for a lift home. Or he might just appear home of his own accord.

And my younger son is less keen on the walks and doesn’t need to pop to the shops as he’s perfectly able to stay at home on his own. So he mainly just sits in his room, usually in front of two screens.

Over Easter, I did make arrangements for the younger kids to see their friends, so they were at least busy and happy on these days. But generally they were bored more than I would have liked them to be.

And me? I was bored a lot of the time. At times, I even missed the dance lessons and endless driving around. Without that, the days felt a bit too long.

Car, Mini, 365

I guess this is the way school holidays are going to be from now on. This is the new normal for us now.

How do others cope with the school holidays when their kids are bigger? Should I be doing more to entertain the kids? Or do I just need to accept that this is the way it is now?

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Oh, that doesn’t sound like much fun at all! I’m at the other end of the school holiday experience, making the most of time together before we’re confined to school holidays.
    Nat.x

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    • Enjoy it! That’s the best time! School holidays can be a blessing and a curse 🙁 x

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  2. Ahhh I can imagine this phase being a bit hard. It’s difficult becoming a Mum and trying to find the ‘new normal’. My boy is in preschool so I have two days to myself for the first time and it’s made my belly feel a bit funny as I don’t know what to do with myself! x

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    • It is difficult! Just when you think you’ve got the hang of it, something new comes along to unsettle you. That must feel very strange having your boy in pre-school. My daughter just did one morning in playgroup in my days off, so that was quite pleasant. I used that time wisely!

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  3. We are not quite at this phase but I can see it coming as my eldest is wanting to do her own thing more and more….
    It’s not nice at all…

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    • It isn’t nice! I’ve only really felt it since my younger son went to secondary school, although I think it’s got more to do with my eldest being in year 10 than it has to do with my 12yo being in secondary school. x

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    • Oh dear! That’s very early to see a change! I must say that my daughter is still very happy in my company. It’s just difficult balancing that with the needs of her teenage brother 🙁

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  4. Not easy is it?! When mine were growing up I tried to book a couple of things each week that they would want to join in with. Some of the time I was at work (which made life easier) and I had to learn that they didn’t always want to be with me :o( It’s sad, but also part of them growing up. I tried to remember how I’d felt about my own parents at a similar age & it all kind of made sense!

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    • That sounds like a sensible way of dealing with it. It’s just unfortunate that what a nearly-15 year old wants to do is very different to what a 10 year old wants to do.
      It is definitely important to remember that we didn’t always want to be with our parents at their age.

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  5. Oh no that really doesn’t sound like fun! I’m glad mine are still reasonably little but am dreading that time when they don’t want to hang out with me any longer

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    • It’s not a lot of fun! I don’t think it’s that they don’t want to hang out with me, it’s more that they don’t want to hang out with each other or they don’t want to do the same things as each other. It’s hard work!

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  6. Mine aren’t quite at that stage yet, but it will come. My oldest is 9 and already we have to arrange times for them to spend time with friends over the holidays, etc. x

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    • It’s only since my younger son has been at secondary school that I’ve really noticed the difference. I arranged for the younger kids to see their friends this time because I felt they were missing out as we seemed to be waiting around for their brother to turn up too much! It’s not easy, but I’ll have to learn to make the best of it. x

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  7. Oh no, I forgot about this bit, although when my elder ones were little I worked so it was a constant worry about paying for their holiday clubs. xx

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    • It’s really hard and it’s taken me quite by surprise as it feels so different. I guess I’ll just have to get used to it! We’ve never had to use holiday clubs as I only ever worked part-time, so with a bit of leave and some help from my parents and husband we always managed to avoid them! x

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  8. I totally get this Sarah having kids of a similar age. Even though we went on holiday for the first week, the second week we have done nothing together. Katie has been off doing her thing with friends, and the teen would rather sit in his room talking to friends on the PS4. I have lost count of the times I have said why don’t you go and meet somewhere instead. Apparently that’s not what boys do!!! I have insisted on doing something together this weekend and we are off for a swim later on. It’s hard isn’t it but yes I do think this is going to be the new normal x

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    • It’s good to know someone else understands! I felt a bit sorry for my daughter as I don’t think she did enough – she just had her friend over for a sleepover. My younger son spent far too long in his room. He has a friend NEXT DOOR and he wouldn’t go and see him to see if he wanted to kick a ball round because apparently it’s not the done thing to knock on people’s doors! What’s the worst that can happen – he’s busy and isn’t able to come out?! x

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  9. Yes same thing happening here and I don’t much like it!

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    • It’s not much fun, is it? 🙁

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  10. I haven’t got any good advice cos I find it hard too. I’ve definitely noticed a significant change this year, unless we are going away. I sometimes arrange to see friends altogether but generally? It’s me and the younger two, or just me and my son. Weird isn’t it?

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    • It’s very weird and I don’t like it! We can’t even arrange to see friends altogether as we don’t actually have any friends that are shared by more than two of us 🙁

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  11. it won’t be like that forever, school holidays may end, but let me reassure you i have so much more fun with my kids now they are adults and they choose to visit us for their holidays, from work. I suppose living abroad is a bit more glamorous, but they pay their own airfare as they want to be part of a family

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    • That’s really good to hear! I guess this a just another stepping stone on their road to adulthood and everything will change in another year or two.

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  12. I’m getting increasingly panicky about this phase. My daughter has just started having a couple of hours in town with her friends on a weekend or during the holidays, and it’s only going to increase. She spends a lot of time in her room. I used to wish for that, when she wanted me all the time, but now it’s come, I don’t like it so much, and it’s only going to get worse. I feel as though their lives are running away from me fast in the other direction and I want to claw them back and hold onto them. Not going to happen though, so finding a way to come to terms with it needs to be a focus. Perhaps I now need to start spending more time with my husband!

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    • We definitely need to find a way to come to terms with it. I know spending time in their rooms is normal teen/ tween behaviour, but I really don’t like it!
      I’d love to spend more time with my husband. If only he didn’t work 14 hours a day…

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  13. I get the feeling this happens to a lot of families after kids start reaching around 9ish. I remember hitting my teens and not even seeing my parents very much. I’d be out from about noon to see my friends. I’m trying to make the most of it with the boys right now and hope its a fair bit off yet!

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