After a boring October half-term, a quiet February half-term and an uneventful Easter holidays (unless you count people being ill and stuff getting cancelled as ‘eventful’), I’ve come to a sad realisation.
The school holidays, the holidays I spend six, seven or eight weeks (damn you, long autumn term) looking forward to, are crap.
With bigger kids, they’re just not fun any more.
Don’t get me wrong, they weren’t a big party before, but we enjoyed them. We didn’t have expensive days out, or any days out really. My husband still worked, he was never at home. I still worked a fair bit too, but we found time to relax.
We went for walks as a family. To the shops as a family. To the cinema as a family.
See the link?
AS A FAMILY.
We did stuff together. Me and the kids. Ordinary stuff, not exciting stuff. But it was a break from the norm. From the pressures of everyday life – school, work and the endless, endless hobbies and driving round in the mum taxi.
I enjoyed it and I think the kids did too.
But now my eldest does his own thing. He goes off with Explorers, to friends’ houses or to hang around town with friends. He asks for a lift and he’s gone. At some point, he may or may not phone me on someone else’s phone (his own being either accidentally left at home or out of charge) to ask for a lift home. Or he might just appear home of his own accord.
And my younger son is less keen on the walks and doesn’t need to pop to the shops as he’s perfectly able to stay at home on his own. So he mainly just sits in his room, usually in front of two screens.
Over Easter, I did make arrangements for the younger kids to see their friends, so they were at least busy and happy on these days. But generally they were bored more than I would have liked them to be.
And me? I was bored a lot of the time. At times, I even missed the dance lessons and endless driving around. Without that, the days felt a bit too long.
I guess this is the way school holidays are going to be from now on. This is the new normal for us now.
How do others cope with the school holidays when their kids are bigger? Should I be doing more to entertain the kids? Or do I just need to accept that this is the way it is now?