Head boy

A couple of years ago, the year after my eldest left primary school, our school introduced the head boy and head girl. They also introduced prefects and deputy head boy and girl.

People who read my blog often may think I’m a competitive mum, and you’d be kind of right. I want what’s best for my kids – I want them to achieve what I know they are capable of achieving, no more no less. I’m not pushy, but I like them to challenge themselves to achieve their own potential.

So when I heard about head boy and head girl, I thought ‘I’d like my kids to do that’. Yes, both of them, when their time comes. And I knew they would want it too. They are very similar personalities and both have just the sort of qualities any school would value in its head boy and girl. They are well-behaved and hard working, responsible and self-assured. They are popular without being disruptive.

So here we are at year 6 – my son’s shot at head boy.

You don’t get handed head boy on a plate. To be head boy you have to write a letter of application to the deputy head saying why you would like the job and what qualities you can bring to it. And you don’t apply to be head boy, you apply to be a prefect. Then the teachers/ head/ deputy head decide which of the prefects should be head boy, head girl, deputy head boy and deputy head girl.

All along we thought my son had a good chance. But nothing is certain.

He wrote his letter. He focused on his good behaviour, his responsibility, the way he likes to help younger children and the fact that he has represented the school in many competitions, both academic and sporting. There was one thing he didn’t mention – being clever. Because that’s not a factor in being made head boy.

The letter was typed, signed and put in an envelope. Then we waited.

The decision was due on the day of the MAD Blog Awards. I asked him to text me to let me know what happened (he’s loving having his own phone and it’s so nice to get texts and phone calls from him). We were certain he would get prefect – there are about 12 of them out of a year group of 60. But could he get head boy?

I was sat in my hotel room and had just that second said to Suzanne aka 3 Children and It that I was expecting a text from my son. Then this came.

Head boy, son, school

No words. Just the picture.

My son is a high achiever. But the school doesn’t hand honours like this out just for a kid being a high achiever. He has to earn it and deserve it, just like everyone else.

I can’t describe how excited, happy and proud I was of my boy.

(Although, having seen me jumping round the room, cheering and chattering non-stop, Suzanne probably can!)

Mum of Three World

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Oh wow well done to him, he’ll do an amazing job! That’s a tough sounding process, it’s exactly how they did it at my school too. My hubby’s school did it on application and votes so it always sounded more a popularity thing.

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    • Thanks very much, he’s enjoying it so far! There’s another job, house captain, which is done purely on votes from the kids – so that tends to go more to the class clown types! I’m glad my boy got head boy rather than house captain.

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  2. Well done him. It’s quite a process isn’t it the application and all?

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    • Thanks very much, it certainly is! I think the teachers (and pupils) know they’ve got the best people by doing it that way.

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    • Thanks very much. x

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  3. You forgot to mention the fist pump in the hair when you got the text! I really love how proud you are of your kids and the way you encourage them to succeed. This kind of attitude is so ‘out of fashion’ at the moment but I think it’s a shame – you be competitive and proud! x

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    • I was rather excited, wasn’t I? A week on and I still get excited when I see that badge! Thanks! I don’t see why parents wouldn’t want their kids to succeed and do their very best!

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  4. What a great way of choosing the prefects & head boy/girl, in some schools it’s no more than a popularity contest, congratulations to your son!

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    • Thanks very much. It’s a popularity contest to choose the house captains, so they tend to go more to the class clown types. I’m glad my son got head boy rather than house captain.

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  5. What a fab text to receive! Well done him :))) x fab to see you at the MADs on Friday misses 😉 hope you had an amazing night xx

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    • Thanks very much. Great to see you too, I had a brilliant time. x

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    • Thanks very much.

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  6. I would have wept!!! It is such a lovely thing. As a teacher it is taken so seriously within the school. We do votes and then more votes and then teachers fight over who think is best so well done! He must have really deserved it xxx

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    • Thanks very much, I was pretty close to tears! It’s nice to hear your teacher’s perspective on things. I’m pretty sure he did deserve it. x

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  7. Well done to him. Definitely something to be proud of…and I like that fact you say you want your children to achieve as much as they can. I think underneath that’s what most parents would want, even though sometimes you can get shouted down for it.

    I was gutted at my school. Secondary didn’t have prefects (they do now they’ve moved to a house system), but my private school I went to 6th form for, did. When I was there, there were only girls in the 6th form, so there weren’t many chosen from girls to be prefects, but I was involved with lots of stuff at school, hard working, did good prep duty for the boys in my house, was a musician and in sports teams as well as academic. And I didn’t get picked. I was gutted as I really deserved it – we didn’t have to apply, the school just chose. I overheard my house mistress and another teacher talking and they said they were surprised I didn’t get it, which made it even worse.

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    • That’s gutting! Sometimes these things are just a popularity contest and that’s a real shame when it’s not awarded on merit.
      I think it’s very sad if parents want to criticise others for wanting the best for their kids. I never push my kids and I would never want them to have something at the expense of others, but I always want them to achieve what they’re capable of. I’m lucky that two of mine seem to be capable of a lot and want to work hard.

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  8. Yah! Well done and well deserved by the sound of his letter.
    We all want our children to succeed in one way or other, whether it be educational or not. My son was school council for 4 years in a row and fought really hard for his place; with a long speech and sometimes making flags and posters for children to vote for him.
    You must be a very proud mummy and rightly so x

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    • Thanks very much, I certainly am! School council four years in a row is impressive! My daughter was awarded it for the third time in her school career (she’s in year 4 and had done it in reception and year 2), but then the teachers decided to give it to someone else as it didn’t seem very fair on the others.

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