My eldest has a few spots on his forehead. Poor kid. He’s only 11 and a half. I’d noticed some girls in his year with spots but they are a) girls (earlier puberty) and b) older than him – he’s one of the youngest in the year.
I saw those spots and I thought ‘oh no, here we go…’ Because I’ve had spots since I was 12 and still have them. My husband suffered with bad acne too. So you can be sure all our kids will have them. I felt sorry for him about the spots, but I wasn’t really seeing the bigger picture. To me they were just spots.
To my husband they were the start of PUBERTY. I thought I was mentally prepared for having a teenager, but it’s only when I started to think about actual puberty, that I realised I’m not. I’m partly prepared for the attitude side of things – because we have a fair amount of that already. But I’m not prepared for the whole ‘body turning into an adult’ thing.
I realised I don’t even know what puberty is for boys or when it starts and when it ends. All I really know about is the voice breaking – which happens at about 14, right? They have a growth spurt. They start a bit later than girls. That is ALL I KNOW.
I need a book! Yes, I can read about it on the internet, but to be properly mentally prepared I have to have a book. Just like I had a book about pregnancy and one about toddlers.
Apparently puberty in boys can start from 9-14, with the average age being 12. It takes about six years from the start of puberty for boys to reach ‘full maturity’. Aagh! What does that mean?!
Puberty starts with boys growing 5-6cm a year apparently. What, like the same as they’ve grown pretty much all their lives? I’m OK with that.
Then there’s bigger penis and balls… Bodily hair… Mood swings…
According to what I read (and of course there is plenty more to read – and I WILL be reading it!) the acne should come at about 14. With the voice breaking.
Maybe he’s going to be one of those kids that mature early? Whose voice breaks in Year 7. I don’t believe it. Those kids are always the big built ones. You can usually tell those kids even when they’re little. (A bit like my younger son! Oh no! Don’t let me have two of them at once!) My boy isn’t one of those boys. He’s in-between and he needs to be in-between. Not first and not last. He doesn’t need to be the only 11 year old boy with spots.
He’s been grumpier and more de-motivated than usual recently. I put it down to still adjusting to the transition to secondary school and losing his best friend who moved away, plus his other friend who went to grammar school.
But now we’re re-thinking. These spots have got us wondering. Are the moods hormonal? Is this puberty?
I don’t know about my son, but I’m not quite ready for puberty just yet.