The Gallery: Bond

When my younger son was born, I hoped my boys would grow up with a close bond. I hoped they’d be the sort of brothers who were best friends. Who would go to the pub together as adults and be best man at each other’s weddings. And so far, so good.

There are two years and four months between my boys, and three school years. To look at them or to listen to them talk, you would think there was a year between them. When they were younger they were often mistaken for twins.

My husband had the same age gap with his brother and they shared a room, yet he says they weren’t ever as close as my boys. I’m so happy my boys are such a good friends.

They are chalk and cheese. Yet they are best friends.

My eldest is a daydreamer – full of crazy schemes and strange questions. He is de-motivated and easily distracted. He is a vegetarian, who doesn’t like vegetables. Or much food at all. He isn’t great at sport. He loves Scouts and he enjoys playing his violin. He goes through phases of collecting things – his latest thing is Olympic memorobilia.


My younger son is a ball of energy and enthusiasm. He is highly motivated, highly intelligent and a natural sportsperson. He is big for his age and is a role model to his peers in so many ways. He has school dinners most days because he’s not a fussy eater. He plays the guitar and loves Lego and Beast Quest.

They’ve shared a bedroom since I got pregnant with their sister and their bedroom is their (very untidy) sanctuary. They stay up far too late chatting and giggling. They know far more about each others’ lives than the rest of us will ever know. They have their favourite things (the Olympic stuff, the Lego, the Beast Quest books), but many of the things in that bedroom just belong to the boys. They may have belonged to one or other of them at one time, but nobody remembers which boy, and they don’t mind.

They fight and argue and wind each other up, yet they will defend each other to the bitter end. My younger son looks up to his brother because he’s his big brother. My eldest looks up to his little brother because in many ways he behaves like the older brother – his personality is stronger, his wit quicker. They look after each other. Against the rest of the family and against the outside world.

The bond is being tested a bit right now because my eldest is at secondary school. He’s trying to find his way and it isn’t easy. The word ‘cool’ is bandied about too much. He is judging his brother and sister by secondary school standards and they’re not always good enough for him.

But while this annoys my husband, daughter and I, my younger son seems to understand it’s just a phase he’s going through. His brother is just being silly and he will come back to him soon.

Then one of them will make a joke (which the rest of us will find unfunny or just plain irritating) and they will laugh and they will be best of friends again. The bond may be stretched, but it won’t break. They love each other far too much.

I wrote this post in response to a prompt on The Gallery over at Sticky Fingers. Pop over to see how other people have interpreted the theme ‘bond’.

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. That’s such a lovely bond! Those pictures are really heart warning, you can just see the connection even on a brief touch. Reminds me of my brother and me…there’s a year and half between us.

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  2. I adore your photo’s – all so natural. They may argue and fight at times, but they look really close!!
    The skipping into the sea is my favourite though!

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  3. There is no bond like that between siblings. I love this, I have it with my brother and sister and I cherish the way we can silently communicate (and laugh til we cry at nothing at all).

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  4. What a lovely post. Nice to read about sibiling bonds. Funny how they bring out the best and worst in each other at times.

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  5. Lovely post, Sarah. My boys are seven and a half, four (today!) and just gone two and I hope they’ll all have the close bond that you describe when they’re older 🙂

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  6. My sister and I are chalk and cheese – but she is my best friend (with a few arguments thrown in!)

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  7. Thank you very much, everyone, I really appreciate your comments. They really do have a lovely bond! I think same-sex siblings who are close in age can have a really special bond. My closest sibling was my brother, then my sister was nine years younger than me, so I didn’t have this kind of relationship myself.
    I love the sea picture too, Kara!

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  8. I’m a mum of three too. My eldest is disabled and the younger two are very protective of him but they can’t all do the same things together, so the social bond is definitely between the younger two.

    It got a bit tense when the elder left Primary School and went to Secondary School (there’s 3 school years between), but now my youngest has joined him they are great together again.

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  9. What a beautiful post 🙂 I so wish that my girls had a bond like this, it really is very special. They just seem to wind each other up! My eldest behaves like an elder sibling – bossy, domineering and frustrated by the other two. The seems to be the main problem. However they are essentially very alike so in years to come, i hope that they get along. Your middle boy sounds like my youngest in many ways. How lovely that they enjoy the same things and share special jokes. Treasure those times, long may they continue!

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  10. What fantastic pictures and what a lovely post. My two have a week under two years between them and flick between being thick as thieves and fighting like cat and dog!

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  11. Thanks very much, everyone! Really appreciate our comments.
    I saw your post, Jessica, and your boys reminded me so much of mine!
    I always thought same sex siblings had this sort of bond, Suzanne. I hope it comes to your girls eventually. Probably what works for my boys is that they are actually so different.

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