Having a teenager who can drive

When my son passed his driving test a couple of months ago, parents of older teenagers told me it would change my life. And I didn’t believe them. Because he wouldn’t have his own car. He would need to drive my car, leaving me without it. Surely that wouldn’t be any less hassle than me having to take him places myself?

(He wouldn’t be getting his own car either and if I had a pound for every person who said to me ‘Are you going to buy him a car?’, I would be a rich woman. There are many reasons why we’re not going to buy him a car, which would make a whole extra blogpost.)

But, as it turns out, I was wrong. Having a teenager who can drive really was the best thing ever.

Because we didn’t need to give him lifts any more.

Of all the kids, he has the least regular lifts, but he’s the one who asks for lifts at inconvenient, ad-hoc times. And suddenly, as long as I didn’t need the car for anything else, he could take himself places. What a result! So he drove himself various places in the evenings and often took himself to work at weekends.

And not just that. Sometimes he gave his siblings lifts too!

Regular readers will know that endlessly driving the mum taxi is probably the element of parenting that I find hardest. That’s because I drive so much in the evenings, often needing to be in two or even three places at once, and struggle with fitting in fundamental things like eating around all my driving responsibilities too. But having my son driving sometimes meant I was driving less, plus I had more time to prepare meals. And he actually ENJOYED the driving. So it was a win-win.

Of course I worried.

I worried the first time he went out on his own. I worried the first time he went out late night. I worried the first time he drove his siblings. I worried the first time he drove other people’s kids. I worried when he drove long distances.

But, as time went on, I started to worry less. My son was a good driver and I was finally getting a little break from driving.

My insurance policy is due to be renewed on 1st December. Since my son started learning to drive until the end of the policy, we have just topped it up a bit at a time. The insurance increased very slightly when he passed his test, compared to when he was a learner. But it was looking like about an extra £75 a month on top of my own insurance. It’s not cheap, of course, but it was OK because my son was getting driving experience and I was getting some pressure taken off me.

When the quote for the next policy came through, it was £1,100 for the year. My husband seriously considered taking my son off the insurance, but I really didn’t want to. Because I’ve loved having my son able to drive and I really didn’t want to go back to the old way. Plus, I didn’t want him to lose the ability to drive.

He’s earning good money at his part-time job, maybe he could make a little contribution to the insurance?

But then it was all taken out of our hands. And not in a good way.

Car, Driving, Mum taxi, The mum taxi gets out of hand, Having a teenager who can drive

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Not too sure I get the ending, but I assume there is follow up? Anyway, I am dreading this moment, but looking forward to it also. The second my kids are old enough to drive, they will learn. As much as we should all be relying on public transport, it isn’t always practical and I think not having a licence is a hindrance. I also note with interest that you need to be in three places at once driving the kdis around. this is my future isn’t it Sarah? Oh my how my world is going to change!

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    • There is a follow-up tomorrow – and it’s nota a good one! It’s definitely a hindrance being unable to drive and generally kids are more receptive to learning than adults, plus they have the time to spare and usually the advantage of their parents paying for it.
      This is probably your future, but on the plus side with two kids you will probably only need to be in two places at once rather than three! (Clearly if you need to be anywhere yourself, that doesn’t count and isn’t remotely important!)

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  2. Uh-oh! I don’t like that ending.
    It sounds like your son driving was a great help x

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    • The ending is not good at all! It’s in my next post.
      It’s been great having my son driving. x

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  3. I am glad it has been taking the pressure off you and I don’t think the renewal is that bad a price really. I can’t imagine that things would change too much with the new situation because of how it was.

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    • That renewal price wasn’t bad, unfortunately things changed and we got a terrible quote (it’s all in my next post). It has been great having him drive and I think I’m really going to miss it.

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