He’s not so bad really

Sometimes, my teenage son drives me insane. He ticks every teenage box there is to tick.

He leaves damp towels and dirty clothes all over the bathroom floor. He goes to bed far too late and then struggles to get out of bed. He makes himself snacks and doesn’t clear up the kitchen. He interrupts me with a pointless question or statement when I’m busy with something else, talking to someone else or even on the phone.

There are entire days when I don’t understand a word he has said. Entire days when I don’t understand him full stop.

He confuses me. What goes on inside the brain of a 15 year old male? Because this 43 year old female really doesn’t understand.

And then there are other days when I remember that he’s not so bad really. Not bad at all.

Other kids’ parents and Scout leaders love him. He’s very good at talking to adults. (Teachers might not be quite so keen, but they’re getting to understand him more now that he’s a bit older.)

He’s been made a prefect at school and that is definitely something to be proud of.

He’s been helping out at Beavers for a year now and even has a special woodland leader name. One of the little boys wrote a letter to him the other day. Just because he likes my son. My heart nearly burst when I saw that mis-spelled note, it was just so cute.

He’s his own person. He doesn’t do enough homework or revision (and I do wish he did more), but when I read about the pressure that some teenagers put themselves under, leading to depression and worse, I’m quite grateful for my son’s laid-back attitude. I’d rather have a happy son than one killing himself to get 10 As.

Yes, he might leave towels on the bathroom floor and make a mess in the kitchen, but a boy who is a prefect, who is loved by adults AND helps out at Beavers can’t be all that bad really, can he?

In between all the frustration, I’m really very proud of my biggest boy.

Prefect, Son, Daughter, School

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Hi Sarah, your lad can’t be all that bad. In fact, I thought I was reading a post about my sixteen-year-old daughter (except she’s not a prefect and doesn’t mind studying just enough).

    I hope your son continues to be laid back, it’s not such a bad thing.


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    • Thanks vert=y much! The more I read about kids and mental health problems, the more I’m grateful that he’s laid back.
      It’s remarkable how similar teenagers are with their getting up late and leaving towels all over the bathroom floor!

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  2. Ah bless him. I totally know what you mean, my brother is an annoying teenager but he’s a nice lad and a good uncle to my girls and those are the things that matter. It’s great that your son does so much for other people, you must be very proud of him.

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    • Thanks very much, I am very proud of him! It’s great to hear your brother is good with your girls – that’s how my kids are with their little cousins 🙂 x

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  3. Aww bless, he’s a lovely lad. What a wonderful boy you have raised into a handsome and caring young man

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    • Thanks very much, that’s such a lovely thing to say.

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  4. I think when you have a teen it is so easy to just focus on the ‘typical teenage things they do’. You must be so proud he has been made a prefect, and it is lovely to hear he has been helping out at Beavers. My teen can sometimes be socially awkward, like most teens I would imagine, but occasionally he shines when speaking to adults. And I am really lucky in that he gets up by himself every day for school. Hurrah for your son and teens everywhere x

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    • Thanks very much. I’m very jealous that you have a teen who will get himself up in the morning! My younger son is very good at getting up, but he’s only been 13 for a few days, so there’s potential for that to go downhill!
      They all have their positives and I particularly love that my son helps at Beavers 🙂 x

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  5. I think we definitely do see the worst of our kids and people do constantly tell me that that is a good thing. I used to go to my eldest’s parents evening and ask if they were actually talking about my son, it was such a contrast to the boy who came home. Your son must be doing well to be a prefect though and you would prefer other people not to see the frustrating side of him really.

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    • Thanks very much. It’s probably good that we can see the worst in them as it helps us to keep them on the straight and narrow! I’m pleased my son is a prefect as it must show he comes across as likeable and responsible at school 🙂

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  6. Aw this is really lovely to read and I think you have the best attitude, as long as he is happy and not getting into any trouble then that’s the most important thing. I also think that the way our kids act around others is also more important than the way they are with us. They are bound to act up with us but if they are always trying their best with others then I think that is a sign of the best parenting. Not sure I am getting this out of my head right but hey ho. Lovely post xx

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    • Thank you! That’s a really lovely thing to say 🙂 The only trouble he gets into is for minor stuff at home with us, so that’s pretty good really! x

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  7. You really do have the right attitude and so does he. My niece buts so much pressure on herself and her education that it is a worry. Lets just say there have been some dark moments on that journey. A prefect is a big thing, well I remember it being a big thing. It sounds like he is turning into a nice young man.

    Thanks for linking up with Small Steps Amazing Achievements :0)

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    • Thanks very much! I was really pleased that he was made a prefect.
      I’ve heard about a few kids (all girls I think) putting so much pressure on themselves over exams that they make themselves ill. I’d like my son to work a bit harder and do himself justice, but I’m glad he’s not making himself ill! x

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  8. You know what, he sounds pretty good to me!
    I think that there are so many more things we could ask of our children – like more homework, picking up towels etc – but there are so many pressures on teens today, but he’s obviously not putting himself under that pressure and working to his own pace. It’s great that he’s a prefect, taking on responsibilities and looking to help younger ones at school, and at Beavers. That’s totally commendable, especially in a teen. I think he’s doing well and you should be proud!

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    • Thank you! I really am proud!
      Yes, I’d like him to do a bit more homework, but I’d prefer him to be the way he is than putting himself under too much pressure and making himself ill. And I love that he helps out at Beavers!

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