Sleepover

Last weekend, my daughter went on her very first sleepover – for her best friend’s birthday. She’d been looking forward to it for weeks. They are such good friends and so sweet and happy together. It never occurred to me that I would actually miss her in such a small space of time.

She set off at 10am because they were going to the cinema and out for lunch with their other friends before the sleepover. There was torrential rain, and she packed all her stuff up in a Tesco bag for life, I crimped her hair, she put her kagoule on and she was gone. And my house felt empty.

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Over the last couple of years, I’ve got used to my eldest being away for periods of time on the endless Scout camps, and I’m even starting to get used to my younger son going away for weekends. When they’re at home, the boys are usually upstairs playing on the Xbox or some other device they’ve been told not to play on. But my daughter is always there.

She’s always chatting to me, dancing and doing cartwheels round the lounge. If she’s not chatting and cartwheeling, she’s sat up her favourite corner of the settee with her Teddy watching the telly – Horrid Henry and My Parents are Aliens. I know the scripts of some of those episodes off by heart and so does she.

The boys and I went ice skating with my younger son’s friend and his mum, which took my mind off it and was a great way to spend a rainy day, but I was counting the hours – the hours she’d been gone and the hours until she would be back.

My husband went to the supermarket and nobody went with him. My daughter never misses a trip to the supermarket, the garage, Daddy’s work to pick up something he’s forgotten or anywhere else. She just loves going out with us, even if it’s to somewhere ‘boring’.

When we said we missed her, the boys saw it as a proof that we ‘loved her more than us’. But it’s not that, it’s exactly what I’ve said here. She’s around more than they are and it’s only when she’s not around that you realise she’s always just there in the same room, brightening the place up with her happy chatter.

Out for a walk in the evening with the boys and my husband, I felt outnumbered. The only female with three males – suddenly the family was only 25% female instead of 40%. There was nobody to hold my hand. My hands didn’t feel right without my daughter’s hand in them. Everyone felt too big – the boys are very nearly as tall as me.

She’d been gone nine hours and 12 minutes (not that I was counting) when I got a text from her friend’s mum and a very happy photo, saying my daughter was being delightful and also very competitive on the Wii. That’s my girl! Delightful and competitive.

She was back just before lunch the next day, having allegedly had 10 hours sleep. The pale, grumpy girl who seemed to have saved up all the grumpiness I might just have missed out on while she was away, didn’t appear to be a girl who’d had 10 hours sleep. But I couldn’t have been happier to see her.

In four months, my daughter will on her year 4 residential with school, when she will be gone for two nights and over 48 hours. That’s an awful lot of hours to count.

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Oh it sounds like she had a wonderful time! I remember fibbing about how much sleep I’d had at a sleepover. x

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    • It was actually her friend’s mum who said they’d had that much! I’m sure she got it wrong though! x

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  2. Having only 1 child, when he goes away our house is VERY quiet, we may have one child but we always end up with a house full of kids. I bet she’s looking forward to her school trip away.

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    • She certainly is! She can’t wait.

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  3. Happy to hear that your daughter had a great time at the sleepover. Why do they always come back in a mood I wonder? My 2 always did this as well!

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    • My younger son is a nightmare when he gets back. Was jetlagged and hardly eating for three days last time!

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  4. Girlie sleepovers are such a rite of passage, but the first few are bound to be tough on us mums! Sounds like you all had a great time though 🙂 #PoCoLo

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    • I never thought about them as being a rite of passage. I’m so old they didn’t really have them in my day!

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  5. Ahhh she sounds like she had a really great time. It’s hard when they’re not about. It always feels so different.

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    • It feels really weird! 🙁

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  6. Ah, I’m still several years away from that with Kara, but I suppose it will be payback for the nights I’ve spent away on ‘work sleepovers’. My two boys (6 and 4) are going to stay with their grandparents in London for three nights in August – I’m finding it hard to imagine how quiet the house will be without them!

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    • Wow, three nights! That will be strange! My kids used to have nights with their grandparents, but as they only live round the corner they were away not much more than 12 hours!

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  7. I completely understand how you must have felt. Grace has just gone off to her fathers for 5 days. I am missing her like mad 🙁 Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

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    • That must be really hard! I would hate it, but I know it’s the reality for a lot of people 🙁 x

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  8. Awww… this is so sweet! I am sure that if she will read this she will appreciate it as its so sweet. I think that as a daughter I am clingy to my mother too. And if my father is not horrid I wouldve been sweet to him as well. And now I know how my mother feels when I started to drift away from home and starts to be with my school and friends more. And I can only imagine how lonely she is that I am here 4 years. I miss her too. *no tears please* After all I am old but to my mother I will always be that clingy little girl. #pocolo

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  9. Oh wow, my oldest boy sleep over at friends and I worry but use to it now. Ekk I would miss my daughter too 🙂

    Thanks for linking up #Weekendbloghop

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  10. I think that as they get older, you just get used to them not being around as much. I imagine you desperately missed your boys when they went away for the odd sleepover. Cute post. Hope she had a wonderful time. x x

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  11. Aha, I have a daughter who appears pale faced and grumpy after sleepovers too 🙂 It’s a certain sign of your strong bond that you missed her so much. My daughter is also destined for a school trip in her next academic year and I’m sure I’ll be really twitchy for the entirety of time she’s away! #PoCoLo

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  12. I’m glad it went well and oh yes, I can relate to the next day grumpiness. It is funny when they aren’t with you, I miss mine so much when they are away, but sleepovers are good for them as it makes the residentials easier.

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