Disorganised birthday

It’s my son’s 11th birthday tomorrow and I’m not ready. Not emotionally. Physically. I’m disorganised and I hate it. It’s not me. I take birthdays seriously. I love them and I’m always ready for them well in advance.

Not this time. As I write this I am praying that a violin and three Funky Pigeon birthday cards arrive today or I will have failed massively.

I know some families are happy with cards and presents later in the day or the next day, the day after or a week later. Not us. Presents and cards need to magically appear overnight in the lounge, along with banners and balloons. All accompanied by Pumba from the Lion King. It’s called the grotto.

So where did I go wrong? What’s my excuse? I don’t have one, really. And it’s not like his birthday has taken me by surprise. It’s on the same date every year.

One of the only defences I can offer is he’s a nearly 11 year old boy who is largely silent except when he’s talking complete crap and making no sense. Or picking on his sister. He has few interests, apart from collecting coins and playing the violin. We didn’t know what to get him and he didn’t ask for anything. So we waited for inspiration to strike and time ticked on and here we are. The day before his birthday. Disorganised.

We knew about the mobile phone, so we got him that. He chose one which cost £9.97. £9.97! That left an awful lot of birthday budget still to spend. And no inspiration.

‘Is there anything he needs for his violin?’ asked my husband. ‘Well, he needs a full-size violin,’ I said. Good idea! We’d have ended up buying it for him anyway, so this way he gets something he wants and needs for his birthday and we save money in the long-run. Violin research – internet and actual shop – took longer than we hoped, taking into account forgetting to actually go into the shop. So we ordered off the internet and we are still waiting.

He likes the Olympics, so we bought him an Olympic hoodie. My mum has bought him an Olympic hoodie too.

The kids wanted to do cards from Funky Pigeon. It wasn’t easy to order them because our internet was down for nearly a week. So we did them on Friday evening once he’d set off on Scout camp. Still five days until his birthday! Except cards ordered on Friday evening are printed on Monday morning and delivery can’t be guaranteed until Thursday. The day after his birthday. And if they’re not there when I get home from work I don’t even have time to nip out and buy some from a shop.

I bought the banners and candles on the way into work today. No thought went into it, just what Tesco had available. When the kids were little, this stuff was all carefully thought out and matched. It still is for my daughter, but not for my big boy.

I will buy the cake tomorrow – I don’t make cakes for anyone, ever. I don’t want to poison them.

What a great mum I am.

Do me a favour. If you see my boy, don’t ask him about his new violin. Just in case he hasn’t got it 🙁

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. I bet the birthday ends up being great. I tend to plan everything out and try to have everything organized and something always happens anyway, but every birthday ends up being special! I have two girls though…

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  2. Thanks for commenting, everybody! Well, so far so good. The cards arrived, thank goodness, the violin didn’t. Daddy felt bad, so he bought him a Swiss army knife to replace the delayed violin. He’s wanted one of those for years (for Scouting purposes only, of course!), but we’ve always been reluctant, so this is a win-win situation!
    Thanks very much for that, Kelly, I really appreciate it 🙂 I will have a go – I’m not the quickest at doing this sort of thing – I always have a backlog of stuff to publish and write!

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  3. awww! The main thing is that you obviously care so deeply about him and put in so much thought about what he would like. I’m glad it worked out but life just gets in the way sometimes and I doubt this will really have a big impact on him about getting a present a day late!

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  4. Thanks very much – he was fine about the violin being late, he didn’t bat an eyelid! Thanks for taking the time to comment, much appreciated 🙂

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  5. Argh! Here’s hoping he has a good birthday, I’m sure he will. Despite his failure of parents. Thanks for linking up to Fail Friday. Birthday wishes to the young man.

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  6. Thanks very much, Sarge. All was well in the end. He never would have known I’d left it right until the last minute.

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