The Christmas card dilemma

I’m one of those people who still sends Christmas cards. I know lots of people give to charity instead and a lot of people just can’t be bothered and don’t even give to charity either. I know life would be a lot easier without this additional hassle in the run-up to Christmas, but something in me won’t let me give up. I have to send Christmas cards.

But who to?

That’s the bit I don’t have the answer to. I used to have a Christmas card list on my old computer which I would update every year – adding new friends, removing people I hadn’t seen or spoken to for a long time. But it seems the list didn’t manage to make it over from my old computer to my new(er) one. I’m in the dark about who to send cards to. It’s not easy to remember everyone you know all in one go.

I remember when I was younger I would send them to everyone and anyone. I would send over 100 cards. I learned from the masters. My parents are brilliant with their Christmas cards. They religiously send them to people they worked with in their old home town. The town they left when they moved here in 1971. They even send them to my old neighbours, because they used to spend a fair amount of time at my house looking after the kids, so they got to know my neighbours.

But now I’m not sure who to send them to. Over the last couple of years I’ve moved on from sending them to people I was friends with 10 years ago, but haven’t seen for eight years. If I’m not in touch with them in any way, why would I send them a Christmas card? On the other hand, I don’t send them to most of my ‘mum friends’ either. When I first got to know the parents of my kids’ friends, I sent them all Christmas cards. Because they’re my friends, right? If I talk to someone in the playground every day or go to their house while our kids play, they should get a Christmas card. But it turns out this isn’t really the done thing. The mums don’t tend to do this. So most of the mum friends were soon off the list. We had an agreement at work not to send each other cards, but, now I don’t work, do I send cards to my old colleagues who I didn’t used to send them to?

I ordered 60 cards from school, designed by my kids and, to be honest, I’m not sure I will need that many. (And when I say ‘I’, I mean ‘we’ of course, because I end up doing them for my husband’s friends and family too.)

Christmas cards, Christmas, Friends

Years ago, I decided that 11th December was the optimum date for sending Christmas cards. Not too early, not too late. With a 2nd class stamp and the Christmas post, they should arrive somewhere around 16th-18th December. Because nobody wants cards arriving on 23rd or, God forbid, Christmas Eve, and not having room to put them up. But as I’m writing this now, you may have guessed that I’ve missed my deadline.

Now I really must go and write some cards…

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. My Mum is like yours, still sending to neighbours from 30 years ago, I however am utterly shit at it, and if I manage any at all, it will be close friends who I wont manage to catch up with over Xmas, and one special one for my folks- or my Mum might cry! xx

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    • Bless your mum, it’s obviously their generation! I would cry too if my kids didn’t give me a card! x

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  2. The kids wrote theirs over the weekend but I still have mine to write out….Ugh!
    My fella and I only send them to family….My mum friends and I don’t bother sending each other cards either….lol

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    • That sounds a sensible view! It’s hard work writing them! Glad it’s not just me who is behind.

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  3. I’m just about to go off to the post office with a huge stack of cards! And yes they’re all going to be late for the overseas destinations (which is why I always include ‘happy new year’ in them too). I have a tradition of having cards with my twins on them so now I can’t stop. But I did go through a bit of dilemma last night wondering who to take off and who to add but I think it’s a great way to sort of say ‘hello’ and keep in touch with many old friends that we don’t often see.

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    • You’re right, it is! But if I think I will never realistically see someone again, they’re off my list! My mum just keeps them on though. Hope your overseas cards aren’t too late. The cards with the kids on sound lovely 🙂

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    • Whoops! I thought I was bad! I’m glad it’s not me though who will never give up!

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  4. Loving the fact you have an optimum date! My Mum and Dad send hundreds to randoms. I send the to close work colleagues and close friends. That’s it. I think cards aren’t sent as much now. I do get a lot from pupils thought which is lovely x

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    • Our parents’ generation are obviously much more into sending cards! It’s good to have an optimum date, but sadly I’ve missed it big time this year!

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  5. Doesn’t surprise me at all Sarah that you have an optimum date, but I love the fact that you’ve missed it this year. I’m a stickler for sending an actual card, and I send thank yous and never miss a birthday either. There’s something a bit magical about sending and receiving actual cards, I’m with Suzanne, can’t see me ditching this tradition any time soon 🙂

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    • Yes! We always send thank yous and birthday cards too! So many people don’t send thank yous. If someone takes the time to choose a present, the least you can do is say thank you properly! There is definitely something very special about receiving proper cards.

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  6. No, nor me! I know far less people send them these days, but giving up doesn’t seem like an option! Cutting down is a good idea though 🙂

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