The other day, my daughter was in town with her friend and texted to say that she thought she’d started her periods. I’ll be honest, I felt a bit sick. I wasn’t ready for this to happen. My daughter was brilliant though. She told me she wasn’t stressed and she didn’t want to come home early.
With no further bleeding, it seems like her periods haven’t quite started, but it’s a wake-up call that they will probably start soon.
The reason I felt sick was because I felt like I hadn’t prepared her enough. We’d had the puberty talk last year, which went very well. She’d got a nice package of period stuff for tweens and teens that we’d reviewed, so I knew she had sanitary towels. We’d agreed she would carry them with her in her school bag when she started secondary school, but with year 7 nearly over, was she actually doing it? It’s one of those things I think of in the middle of the day, but in the madness of driving kids around, cooking and tidying up after school, I always forget to actually check.
It seems that she wasn’t carrying them, but she is now. I’ve also bought a few extra sanitary towels ready, and was pleased to see that you can get smaller ones especially for young girls, because she’s really not big enough for something designed for adults.
It’s always said that girls will start their periods at a similar age to their mums. I was 14 when I started mine, so I really didn’t think I needed to worry until she was 13. And, even though she has got small boobs, she hasn’t filled out into that womanly shape yet. She doesn’t even wear a bra. I really thought we had at least another year to go.
But I forgot the minor detail that she’s only 50% me. She’s also 50% my husband’s family. I remember his sister at the age of 12 very well. She had a womanly figure and boobs which put my own 20 year old boobs to shame. My daughter is slim with muscular legs like me, thanks to genetics and ballet. But she’s always had a very curvy, feminine bum, which most definitely doesn’t come from my genes!
So it looks like periods are much more imminent than I’d expected. We’ve had our puberty wake-up call, I’ve had a word with myself for my complacency and now we are definitely ready for periods!
Did your daughters start their periods earlier than you expected?