I’ve just stuck a candle in a cupcake and said a silent happy birthday for a girl who should turn 14 today.
But Abi won’t eat any cake today, she won’t excitedly open up clothes and make-up, she won’t take selfies with her friends, she won’t have a birthday sleepover. Because Abi isn’t here any more. She is forever 12.
Today will be a tough day for her family and I am thinking of them as I light that candle. They don’t want us to forget Abi, which is why her mum, who blogs at Chasing Dragonflies, has asked us all to stick a candle in a cupcake and to decorate social media with little cakes in honour of Abi’s birthday.
I didn’t know Abi, but my son was in her class in year 7. They hadn’t been together long, they hardly knew each other, but I feel a connection with her through my son. When I think of Abi, I think of my son and how lucky I am to still have him.
And I think of Abi’s mum, who I have had the pleasure to get to know through social media. I think of what she must go through every day and I can’t bear it. And that’s why I lit this candle.
Happy birthday Abi. I hope you’re partying in heaven right now. x