New friend

My eldest has a new friend and I couldn’t be more happy. My poor boy has a record of losing best friends to the seaside. In 2012, just before they started secondary school, his best friend from school moved to Devon. Last autumn my lovely friend from down the road moved to the seaside too – taking her daughter, my son’s very good friend, with her.

Most of the kids from my son’s school locally are girls. He has a few friends nearby from other schools. But there’s been nobody special for a long time. I’ve started to hear new names mentioned, heard them described as friends, but they’ve never been to the house and he has never been out to meet them. I suppose he’s slightly young to go and meet friends who live elsewhere, although I would happily take him. I know nothing about these friends, but I’d like to see him spending time with him.

But suddenly another friend has come into his life. He’s in the year above at school, lives in our village and goes on the same bus to school. They are in chess club together at school – his friend is the best player in the school and my son is the second best. Quite an achievement for a year 9 and a year 8!

Having a new friend means my son has more freedom. He doesn’t have to stay at home bored with what his brother and sister are doing. He can do what he wants to do – without arguing with anyone. Because, let’s be honest, he winds his brother and sister up and they wind him up. He’s at an age where he wants more independence and it’s been hard to know how he can do this.

I want him to be happy and enjoying himself, but I also want him to be safe and know where he is. I don’t want his need for independence to dominate the whole family and make everyone else unhappy.

Finding a new friend nearby is just what he needed.

Now please cross your fingers his friend doesn’t move to the seaside…

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Its great that he is making friends nearby. As for the chess, well done to both of them

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  2. Its so special having that best friend and pretty hard when they leave isnt it? I hope this new best friend never decides to leave for the seaside

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  3. Thanks very much, ladies.
    It’s pretty awesome about the chess, Candace. Couldn’t believe he didn’t mention it for ages – I was so pleased and proud when he told me about it!
    Fingers crossed, Tas. I don’t think this one will go – they don’t seem the type (I hope!).

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  4. So great when they find a friend with the same passions … these are the ones that stick aren’t they? Would love to see you at my #EmptyYourArchive link party which is a chance to share wonderful old posts – Alice @ Mums Make Lists #pocolo

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  5. So great when they find a friend with the same passions … these are the ones that stick aren’t they? Would love to see you at my #EmptyYourArchive link party which is a chance to share wonderful old posts – Alice @ Mums Make Lists #pocolo

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  6. Oh that’s wonderful, I hope the friendship blossoms. I can totally understand your feelings x

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  7. The importance of friendship can never be underestimated – for any of us! glad your son has found a new friend. #pocolo

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  8. That’s lovely – it’s so nice when they make friends and interact with others 🙂 #PoCoLo

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  9. Brilliant news! It’s hard when they are a bit older and you can’t just arrange playdates any more. My son struggled but has finally (yr 10) also found friends and joined chess club!

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  10. That’s lovely! Having a shared interest in chess should really cement the friendship. #PoCoLo

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  11. That is fantastic news, it can make so much difference can’t it. Sounds like he has good taste in friends too.

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  12. Thanks very much, everyone! Definitely hoping this one doesn’t move to the seaside, Mummy Whiskers! It is harder when they get older, Afra. Coincidence that your own has joined chess club too!

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  13. Fabulous news, here’s hoping that the friendship and the shared passion for chess continue.

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  14. I’ve had similar worries about my son over the years. He’s 16, and doesn’t seem to have a best friend, but does have a good group of friends. Boys relationships seem different to girls, and the whole idea of a bestie. Great post

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  15. It’s great when they have good friends, so much more fun and freedom 🙂 I always worry about my daughter as she is so quiet and shy (like me ha)

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  16. It’s always a relief when your kids make friends – I was SO worried about that when we moved to Somerset but now Grace seems to know everyone, far more people than Ross and I do! Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

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  17. I know how important it was that he had a new friend locally. Nice to see that he’s found someone close by with similar interests.

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  18. Fingers crossed indeed! I did wonder what you meant by losing them to the seaside though!
    😀
    x x x

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  19. While I totally understand the draw of the sea, I do hope this friendship burgeons into something with longevity. It sounds as though there are multiple areas of commonality,so certainly has the potential. Fingers crossed! #PoCoLo

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  20. Thanks very much, everyone! I can understand it must have been a concern to you for Grace when you moved, Vic.
    There aren’t that many kids in our village, so it is really good that he’s found a friend locally.
    Yes, two of his friends moved away to the seaside, Susanne, which seems like really bad luck to me!

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  21. It’s great that he’s found another friend. We always worry for our children don’t we?

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  22. We certainly do, Morgan! Thanks very much for taking the time to comment.

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