My eldest has a new friend and I couldn’t be more happy. My poor boy has a record of losing best friends to the seaside. In 2012, just before they started secondary school, his best friend from school moved to Devon. Last autumn my lovely friend from down the road moved to the seaside too – taking her daughter, my son’s very good friend, with her.
Most of the kids from my son’s school locally are girls. He has a few friends nearby from other schools. But there’s been nobody special for a long time. I’ve started to hear new names mentioned, heard them described as friends, but they’ve never been to the house and he has never been out to meet them. I suppose he’s slightly young to go and meet friends who live elsewhere, although I would happily take him. I know nothing about these friends, but I’d like to see him spending time with him.
But suddenly another friend has come into his life. He’s in the year above at school, lives in our village and goes on the same bus to school. They are in chess club together at school – his friend is the best player in the school and my son is the second best. Quite an achievement for a year 9 and a year 8!
Having a new friend means my son has more freedom. He doesn’t have to stay at home bored with what his brother and sister are doing. He can do what he wants to do – without arguing with anyone. Because, let’s be honest, he winds his brother and sister up and they wind him up. He’s at an age where he wants more independence and it’s been hard to know how he can do this.
I want him to be happy and enjoying himself, but I also want him to be safe and know where he is. I don’t want his need for independence to dominate the whole family and make everyone else unhappy.
Finding a new friend nearby is just what he needed.
Now please cross your fingers his friend doesn’t move to the seaside…