Confidence boost in a Tshirt

When shopping in Next for trainers for my son (Next being one of the few shops which realises boys’ feet don’t stop growing at a 2 and their bodies don’t stop growing at a 7-8, presumably for them to fall off the earth only to return once they fit a ‘small men’s’), I spotted this Tshirt.


The slogan reads I’m kind of a big deal on my blog.

I knew I had to have that Tshirt.

Back when I started work when I was 25, young and naive, I was given a lot of freedom and autonomy in my work and, guess what? I didn’t make any mistakes. I didn’t threaten the very existence of the council by saying the wrong thing. Because my judgement was sound. Guess what? It still is.

But fast forward 15 years and things have changed. We work within tighter regulation, the tide continues to turn against part-timers who, let’s be honest, never had an awful lot of respect anyway. With all of this, I’ve become unhappy and lost confidence. Everything I do has to be signed off. That’s fine, I get that. But now it’s got to the point where half the time I’m not even trusted to get stuff signed off myself. It seems that senior managers and councillors might prefer to be contacted by someone more senior and full-time (though no more able to write or get things, right I might add) to ask for sign-off.

And sometimes I sit there and I wonder what I’m doing. This quiet, depressed little mouse. Because this isn’t how people see me on my blog. On my blog I can be who I want to be, the person I am inside. There are no rules. It’s my space and people can take it or leave – read it if you like, don’t read it if you don’t want to.

People like my blog. I know that. Real-life friends tell me they like it and I get lots of positive feedback on social media through people who have become real friends and others I know I will never meet.

They don’t see me as the quiet, unhappy part-timer.

And that’s why I needed that Tshirt. Because I know on MY blog, I am a big deal. And knowing that makes me happy. I don’t want to wear the Tshirt to blogger events. That would be totally uncool. But when I’m out with muggles, when I want to feel happy and confident, I can wear that Tshirt with pride.

You won’t be surprised to know that with a big new house and all the work we’re doing on it, plus the redundancy, spending money on clothes is not a priority right now.

But a confidence boost in a Tshirt? You can’t put a price on that.

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Yay well done for treating yourself, you deserve it and you are a very big deal on your blog!

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  2. I want that t-shirt! Love that it’s given you a confidence boost, you are a big deal here, I love reading your blog!

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  3. Thanks very much, ladies! Really appreciate that, Nikki!
    Great to hear you enjoy my blog, Leoni-fay!
    Definitely get yourself there, Julie 🙂

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  4. Fab t-shirt, I spotted this the other day and wondered about getting it! I’m glad that it’s given you a confidence boost, just in time for your new work adventures 🙂

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  5. Absolutely LOVE the T-Shirt!!!.. Anything that gives you a confidence boost gets a thumbs up from me 😀 #pocolo

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  6. I LOVE That T shirt!! Your blog is ace – one day some random stranger will stop you in the street and say “Oh my God, you’re Mum of 3 world”

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  7. Grace says – YAY – Love this T-shirt – may have to look at this for Mummy’s birthday but shhhhh don’t tell her……………..

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  8. What a cool tee! I love Next, both for their woman and for their boys clothes. But now with this tee I love them even more! I got to get me one of those.
    Anyway I get what you mean about being a who you really are or who you want to be on your blog.
    And if it means anything, I like your blog 🙂

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  9. Grace…I already dropped hints to Ross on this one 🙂 This is a fab shirt – and you are very right about our blogs. I feel that it is our space to be who we are…and possibly who we want to be. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

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  10. I need this shirt 🙂 I never though of this before about my blog, but you are so right and made me feel good about my blog too… thanks for sharing at the weekend blog hop…

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  11. Thanks very much, everyone. The Tshirt is brilliant, isn’t it? Hope you get it for your birthday, Victoria! Glad it made you feel good about your blog too, Clairejustine! x

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  12. Awesome post and awesome T shirt. Love it. So important to have something in your life where you are a big deal. You’ve come to the right place. #pocolo

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  13. That’s brilliant, what a find! Sorry to hear you’re feeling disillusioned with work… I hope you are appreciated really and that it’s just a blip. But if not, maybe it’s time to look around and see if you can move on? Good luck. Over from #PoCoLo x

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  14. Thanks very much, ladies 🙂
    I’m taking voluntary redundancy, Steph. I’m going to freelance and be my own person again. It’s been too long since I’ve had freedom. x

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  15. That is AWESOME! I WANT THIS! And YES you are a big deal… on your blog…to your family… and to your friends too. You are a big deal to me.
    Thanks for linking up to #WednesdayWords
    Sorry I’ve taken ages to comment – I’ve pretty much been absent from the internet for a while. Back now though! 🙂 xx

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  16. Thanks very much, Emma, that is the nicest comment 🙂
    Welcome back to the internet, everyone needs a break every now and then! x

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