This is something that’s been bugging me for a while now. It’s one of those Mars/ Venus situations I don’t see being resolved until we are retired and the kids have all flown the nest.
I get up early, leaving myself lots of time to get the kids and myself ready. On work days I get up at 6. When the kids are at school, but I’m not at work I get up at 6.20. And on magical days when I’m not at work, but the kids are at school and two of them are having school dinners I treat myself to 6.30. Seriously, that is a real treat. Or it would be…
I have no trouble getting up. The alarm goes off, I wake up, I spring out of bed, I turn my alarm off. I never ‘snooze’, I never lie there groaning and wishing I could have more sleep. I just get up.
My husband gets up any time between 5.30 and 7.30, depending if he needs to go travelling anywhere and, well, basically whether or not he can be bothered to get up. Because he plays no real part in getting the kids out of the house plus his work is closer to home than mine and it’s his own business, so it really is up to him whether he starts work at 6 or 9.
But here’s the problem… My husband often sets his alarm for 6. With no intention whatsoever of getting up then. He likes to press snooze. He likes to lie there half asleep and half awake for an hour or more.
If his alarm goes off at 6 and I don’t have to get up until 6.20 or even (oh joy!) 6.30, I don’t want to be woken up. Because I don’t like lying awake. I want to have those extra few minutes of sleep and, no, I can’t go back to sleep. So I just get angry.
If he’s actually getting up at 6, I have no problem with it. But if he has no intention of getting up until 7 or 7.30 and I am forced to lie awake, listening to his alarm going off every 10 minutes AND him snoring when I shouldn’t even be awake, that makes me really cross.
And he just doesn’t get it. Because he thinks I should enjoy being half awake. He thinks I should be able to go back to sleep.
But I don’t and I can’t. We are different.