‘Also mum… ‘

Sometimes when I blog, I just want to capture something small, ordinary and special. Something I may forget in a few months and will definitely forget in a few years, but which means something at the time.

Right now, that is the phrase ‘Also mum… ‘

My younger son starts conversations with me like that several times a day. I’m not sure why it’s ‘also’ because it may come after many hours of silence. It is almost certainly unrelated to something we’ve previously been talking about.

And that’s why it’s special. It’s unique to him.

I like to think my younger son and I have a strong bond. Most people, including his own siblings, would say that my younger son is the quietest and least friendly of my three kids. They may be right.

He spends a lot of time up the corner of his bedroom on his DS, phone and iPad (all at the same time). He is less likely to speak to people he doesn’t know. Or even people he does know. Sometimes we can sit in silence all the way to and from school. But not often.

Because my younger son does like to talk to me.

And he nearly always starts his conversations with ‘Also mum… ‘.

He talks about things others might not be interested in. Neither his siblings nor his dad are interested in Pokemon, but I like to listen because it’s something he’s interested in. It doesn’t matter than I don’t understand it that well. I just love to hear him talk. Love his enthusiasm.

Often ‘also mum… ‘ is about something that happened at school or something that happened at rugby or football. It could be something good, something bad or something funny. Something someone said or something someone did. A great try or an argument with the ref. A missed tackle or an injury.

Just occasionally he might even tell me about something he’s learned at school. Or the 95% he got in his chemistry test.

My son is happy to go for walks with me, just the two of us. And he chatters all the way. How may teenage boys do you know who are happy to just go for a walk with their mum? No dad, no siblings, no friends. Just a boy and his mum.

He’s 14 years old. I don’t really mind what he talks about. I just like that he keeps doing it. I love to hear his stories of school and even his Pokemon chat. Every time I hear ‘Also mum… ‘ I stop, listen and enjoy it.

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. This made me think of that quote that goes along the lines of if you don’t listen to the little stuff when they are little, they won’t tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff. It sounds like you have a great relationship and that really is something to cherish x

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    • Thanks very much, that’s a lovely quote. It’s definitely something to cherish! x

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    • Thanks very much, I think he do! He can be quiet, but he just needs someone to listen to him. x

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  2. Oh my word, for once you’ve written a post about teenagers that doesn’t terrify me! How wonderful that you both get along like this. I hope I get on my with my daughters when they are teenagers in this way. That’s my great hope.

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    • Thanks very much, I’m very happy not to terrify you! I must say that so far the teenage years have treated us well. The kids eat a lot and make a mess, they’re a bit stubborn, but we haven’t had any of the big worries – mental health, sex, drugs, drink, crime…

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  3. Ahh bless him, this is lovely. I hope he keeps talking to you throughout the teenage years, it’s great that you’re so close.
    Nat.x

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    • Thanks very much, I really hope so too! We’re over a year in to the teenage years with him now and so far, so good!

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  4. Oh this is so special, I’m glad you’ve recorded it on here, you will love to read back on this one day (and so will he). My son sounds very similar to yours (he’s 13) but is currently going through the rolling eyes/you’re so embarrassing mum phase! He doesn’t talk much either but when he does, it’s quite enlightening! He’s also still happy to accompany his mum on a walk. I love that. Your mum/son bond sounds very special.

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    • Thank you! I’m very glad I recorded it too because I know he might stop saying it soon and then I’ll forget. Glad you’ve got such a lovely relationship with your son too. I’m pleased to say that none of my kids have ever done the eye roll/ embarrassing Mum thing (they’re more likely to aim it at their Dad!).

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