When my daughter was away on her school residential, the other girls said they missed their mums. And my daughter didn’t get that. Not because she didn’t miss me, but because she missed her Daddy too.
Why didn’t the other girls miss their dads? Why didn’t they mention them? She just couldn’t get her head round it.
I know it is always said that dads and daughters have a great bond, but I don’t have much experience of it – just my own relationship with my dad and my daughter’s relationship with my husband. Certainly my daughter is much closer to my husband than I was to my dad, but I didn’t know which of us was ‘normal’.
But, if her friends are anything to go by, it seems that maybe my daughter is closer to her Daddy than most girls.
What I do know is that my daughter, far more than the boys, has always loved us equally. She’s never happier than when she’s snuggled up between us. Of course, the boys do love us equally, but we have our own uses – I’m the affectionate one and the one who organises them, my husband is the one who deals with practical stuff around the house and football.
When my daughter sees her Daddy, her face lights up. And his lights up when he sees her. She’s the only one he bothers to say goodbye to when he’s off to work and the kids are asleep – because she’s the only one who is bothered, the only one who will miss him.
When it comes to my daughter, my husband has a softer side. He’s not a really laddish man, but nor is he a ‘new man’. He’s just a regular bloke who works hard and likes football and spending time with his family.
The other day, my daughter had taken nail varnish off one hand and started to paint her nails. But she hadn’t done the other one. She didn’t need to.
‘Daddy will do that one when he gets home.’
And my heart melted.
Yes, their bond is so strong that my husband likes to paint her nails and she likes him to do it.
She’s growing up now, she’s off to secondary school and the moody puberty years are just around the corner. Things will change, but I really hope her love for her Daddy never changes.