Sixteen years of married life

Last week, my husband and I notched up 16 years of married life together. It’s not a significant anniversary, but it’s still quite an achievement in this day and age.

Not surprisingly, we’ve done a lot in that time. We had three children in less than six years, the first born a few days before our one year anniversary. We’ve bought three houses – moving from a flat to a terrace, then to a semi-detached and now to our lovely detached house. We’ve both given up jobs to go it alone. I’m pleased to say that’s worked very well for my husband. And for me? Well, it’s ticking along.

We’re not romantics, we don’t go in for grand gestures and big shows of affection, but we’re pretty happy on the whole.

And we always make sure we mark our wedding anniversary.

Since 2008, we’ve had a ‘tradition’ of going to London to watch a show, just a matinee, so we don’t need a night away. We don’t often get away from the kids, so it’s a nice thing to do. Over the years we’ve seen: Oliver; Joseph; Legally Blonde; War Horse; Charlie & the Chocolate Factory; The Book of Mormon and this year we saw Aladdin.

We always buy each other presents too and my husband is particularly good at buying them. But this year I couldn’t think what to get him. It’s hard when the anniversary comes so soon after his birthday and Father’s Day. Plus he’d recently stocked up on clothes and cycling gear. So we agreed our trip to London would be our present to each other.

You know those married couples that dress the same? We looked at ourselves as we caught the train to London and realised what 16 years of marriage does to you. Yes, we have become that couple. We were both wearing grey Superdry tops and black jeans (his Levi’s, mine Superdry) and very similar looking trainers (his Superdry, mine Converse).

And when we got out our cards to give to each other, I looked at the identical envelopes and knew exactly what had happened. Of all the cards on the market, we’d chosen the exact same ones. Because he’s into cycling, I’d got him one with a bike on it. And because he’s into cycling, he’d got me one with a bike on it.

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Oh, and he’d cheated and got me a present. While I was distracted by trying on dresses (dresses, me, I know!) in Superdry, he’d sneaked off and bought the Tshirt I wanted. When I wondered out loud whether I should get the Tshirt, he said it would probably be best if I didn’t – what with us spending far too much money on going to London, school trousers and running trainers in the space of a week.

16 years of married life and we’re still going strong. I can’t imagine how much we will have metamorphosed into each other after 32 years of married life!

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Oh congratulations! 16 years is a really long time and how lovely that you still get along so brilliantly.
    Nat.x

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    • Thanks very much! It is a really long time! We’ve actually been together 23 years, so well over half our lives! x

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  2. Loved this post! It is funny how you morph into one being when you have been together for a while. Hope you had a fantastic time at the show and here’s to the next 16 years!! XX

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    • Thanks very much! In some ways we’re quite different, but other elements are getting increasingly similar! The show was brilliant, thanks 🙂 x

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  3. Congrats! This is such a gorgeous post! That’s what marriage is really about – being so in tune with each other.

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    • Thanks very much, I agree. After 16 years, marriage isn’t a big romantic thing. Being happy is enough!

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  4. Aww! This is so sweet! Congratulations to you both.
    I love that you both got the same cards. That just goes to show you are perfect for each other. x

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    • Thanks very much! I think you must be right about the cards 🙂 x

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  5. Ah lovely lovely post. And happy anniversary!! It’s so cool how you’re now in synch with the cards. You definitely get couples that start to look like each other. I’d just like to grow a few inches, that would do me fine 🙂

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    • Ha ha, that would be great, but I think it’s rather unlikely…

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    • Thanks very much 🙂 x

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    • Thanks very much! I couldn’t believe we’d got each other the same card, but then I kind of could believe it!

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  6. A fantastic result. My husband and I were so glad when we first hit double figures, it seemed like such an achievement but we are not yet at 16! Congrats to you both. Hilarious and cute that you both have the same mindset on clothes and cards. Here’s to the next 16.

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  7. At least you got a card! My husband doesn’t do cards at all. And we are so dissimilar after 30 yrs of marriage I sometimes wonder whether we should still be together…except for the fact that we love each other Congrats to you both…you’re catching us up!

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  8. That really made me chuckle, especially the matching cards and clothes. My husband and I are very similar in many ways, maybe that is the secret to a good relationship?

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  9. Oh this is brilliant. I understand what you mean though. After 20 years of married life (this year) we finish each other’s sentences and often say what each other is thinking. I’m sure in another 20 years we may not even talk to each other any more? Happy anniversary to you both. Loving the cards (you get cards! We don’t do that…). xx

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  10. Congratulations 🙂 What a lovely anniversary tradition you have, and how funny you both chose the same cards. I’ve been with my partner for 15 years, but we are not married, yet, will be by the end of the year though 🙂

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  11. Aw it really made me smile when I saw that you both had got the same card for each other. I think it’s important to celebrate every anniversary and a day trip to London sounds just perfect. Happy 16th anniversary to you both x

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