Looking like sh*t (and feeling OK with it)

On the morning of the MAD Blog Awards last week, as everyone shared their frantic beauty preparations on Twitter and Instagram (there were an awful lot of roots being done), I felt compelled to share this.

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On the morning of MAD Blog Awards (left) and May 2015 (right)

Because my roots weren’t done. They haven’t been done since May. I’m not sure that they will ever be done again. And I had a massive spot in the middle of forehead. By the standards of all the groomed ladies at the MAD Blog Awards, I looked sh*t. But that’s only a fraction of the story.

Because, to me, I don’t look sh*t. I wanted to explain to people why I haven’t covered the spot in the middle of my forehead, why I’m not wearing make-up and why my hair is a strange frizzy mix of grey, blonde and dark brown.

And I also wanted to say that it doesn’t matter! It doesn’t matter if your eyebrows haven’t been done or if you’ve got a spot. Because you look just great as you are. When you’ve looked PROPERLY SH*T, you learn to appreciate how good normal looks – normal with the odd spot, roots showing, unruly eyebrows. It’s all fine. We’re all human. We have these things. Nobody cares.

I guess I kind of get that some people care a lot about their appearance and I’m VERY grateful that I’m not someone who cares about my appearance (as long as I’m wearing Superdry, that’s all that matters to me). Because if I’d cared about my appearance, I’m not sure how I would have got through this year. I’ve been to hell and back with my skin and that’s why I don’t bat an eyelid at the single large spot in the middle of my forehead or the big chunk of grey at the front of my hair.

When my skin looked awful earlier this year, I hated it and couldn’t look people in the eye. I kept my head down so strangers (and people I know) wouldn’t look at me, but not once did I avoid a situation. I didn’t miss a single school run or a single dance class. I went where I needed to go and did what I needed to do. I talked to people if I had to.

I’m not really sure where I’m going with this, other than to say, yes, I still get some spots. Yes, by most people’s high standards I still look a bit sh*t and probably always will look a bit sh*t, but I’m proud of myself for how far I’ve come, for staying strong and ultimately not caring all that much.

Life is too short to worry about the way we look.

Thank you to Downs Side Up and the many people who complimented me on my skin at the MAD Blog Awards and to Wry Mummy, who even said my hair looked nice!

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. I’m so pleased for you that your skin is getting better, you look amazing. I am totally with you on not caring how I look. There is so much more to life than that. I rarely wear makeup or make an effort with my clothes (they’re all too small and I can’t afford to buy more!) I know people judge me for it but that’s ok with me, I’m happy with my family and I’m not bothered what other people think. You do so much better than me by socialising and seeing people, I only have a select handful of friends that I see now. I think your attitude to it all is great but for the record you always look great in your photos.x

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    • Thank you! That’s such a lovely thing to say, I really appreciate it. It’s nice not caring about your appearance as there is so much more to life than that – and people who know you realise that. It’s refreshing that you don’t worry what others think. I must admit I do worry from time-to-time – particularly when my skin was at its absolute worst! x

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  2. Ha ha I love your PS at the end! Brilliant post Sarah and so very ‘you’. Your skin looks infinitely better and to be honest, I hadn’t even noticed your roots until you pointed them out. I just don’t think they show up in your hair. And as you say, good skin is so much more important.

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    • Thank you! That’s such a lovely thing to say. It’s a relief that you couldn’t see my roots!

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  3. Was lovely to say hi on Friday, Sarah. Hope you had a great time. You’re right, life is too short to worry about how we look (says the woman who piled on the make-up on Friday) – not something to obsess about. Your skin is looking great. Didn’t notice anything about your hair besides thinking the waves looked pretty xxx

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    • Thanks very much, that’s a really lovely thing to say. My hair is all naturally wavy. Good to see you on Friday too 🙂 x

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  4. This is a really nice post to read on a Monday morning. I’m never really feeling my best but I too am so happy with how my own face looks these days. I had terrible eczema which added years to my face, I honestly looked around ten years older. I guess it was the polar opposite to you with flakey, split, swollen. I got regular eye infections and I couldn’t hide away. It is now a million times better, still a bit dry around the eyes, purple grey skin from scaring but I don’t look like crap -anymore.
    You look like you were in a bit less pain/discomfort and I’m really glad you had a lovely time.
    x

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    • Thanks very much for such a lovely comment, I really appreciate it and can really relate to what you’re saying. I have eczema too (although not on my face) and I’ve had eye infections a lot over the last year – all linked to my other problems with my skin. I’ve always looked young for my age, but everything my skin has been through this year has really aged it.

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  5. I’m so pleased you had a lovely time and your skin really does look amazing now, I don’t blame you for not wearing make up to show off the improvement! x

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    • Thanks very much. I don’t wear it because I don’t dare put any sort of chemicals on my skin! x

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  6. I think you look fantastic….Your skin is looking so much better now!
    I wore some make up on Friday when I went for a meal with my fella and said when I was putting it on I couldn’t be bothered to do it every day….I have better things to do with my time. lol

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    • Thanks very much! I am feeling so much better about it. Possibly it will even end up perfect, but I don’t dare get my hopes up. Ha ha, life is definitely too short to be faffing about with make-up!

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  7. You always look gorgeous Sarah and I hadn’t noticed the grey in your hair till you mentioned it, then j scrolled back up to have a look 🙂 you carry it off really well and i don’t think you need to dye it! You looked fab at the MADs and you always shine through!! 🙂

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