Niece, nephew, husband

I never knew it was possible to love other kids almost as much as you love your own. But then my niece came into the world.

We have two nephews on my husband’s side, but we rarely see them. My niece was the first child outside of our four walls who became a fundamental part of my life. I was 39 when she was born. And I love her to bits. I realised then why my sister and her husband (who were 18 and 17 when my eldest was born!) love my kids as much as they do.

My niece has brightened up our lives. She’s a bundle of energy and a strong character. She’s a little chatterbox and she looks so adorably cute. She’s everything you could want in a child. My kids adore her and she adores them.

And we don’t have to discipline her! We can give her back to her parents if she’s naughty. Nieces and nephews are brilliant – all the good bits of parenting and none of the bad bits.

Niece, Cousin, 365

A few months ago, her little brother came along. So now we’ve got an adorable baby nephew too and we love him every bit as much as my niece.

They say blood is thicker than water, but I’m not sure that’s true. Because my husband adores those kids every bit as much as I do. He hates to go a week without seeing them. On his birthday recently, my two boys woke up grumpy (as kids of their age often do) and didn’t say ‘happy birthday’. But ‘my two girls’, as he calls them, did. My daughter said ‘happy birthday’ when she got up and my niece, who is only just two and a half, rang him and sang ‘happy birthday’ down the phone. He couldn’t get over that. It was the best thing that happened to him all day – better than any presents. He told everyone how beautifully she sang it.

With Britmums Live and our dance show  recently, I was basically away from home for three days. That’s a big chunk of our lives. A lot of small stuff happens in three days. When I’m away (which is only ever once a year for Britmums Live), my mum tends to help out and fill in the gaps that my husband either doesn’t have time to do or doesn’t know how to do. While I was away, my husband texted me the cutest photo of my nephew. He’s got it as the screensaver on his phone, rather than any of his own kids. Apparently he said to my mum ‘I can’t stop looking at it’.

‘He loves those kids,’ I said to my mum.

‘I know,’ she said. ‘I think he loves them as much as his own.’

And that makes me proud. They’re not his blood, but that doesn’t matter. They’re two gorgeous kids we’re lucky to have in our family and lucky to see regularly.

I was so happy when my sister asked my husband to be my nephew’s godfather. He totally deserves it. It’s always a difficult decision, taking into account siblings and good friends, but I’m proud that, of the four uncles my nephew has got, my husband is definitely the most doting uncle. He totally deserves to be godfather.

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. Awww what a brilliant relationship and bond. It’s so lovely to see I bet and it’s a bit like my husband and my niece were a couple of years ago. They ended up moving houses a bit further away so we don’t get to see them every week anymore. The screensaver pic sounds v v cute 🙂

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    • Thanks! It’s really lovely to see. They’re so cute, we all adore them 🙂

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  2. Aww! How lovely! What a lovely relationship between your husband and your niece and nephew!
    Thinking about it my fella is closer to my nephew than he is his blood relatives….hehehe

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    • It really is lovely! I think it’s down to how close people are geographically too which makes a difference.

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  3. Lovely to be so close to family like this. I love my nephews to bits, though they’re not blood relations either as with your husband, as they’re my husband’s sister’s kids. At 19 and nearly 13, they’ve been a big part of my life, and I’m so proud of them and fortunate to get to see them every week x

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    • How lovely! That’s just like my sister and her husband with my kids. I totally understand the bond between them now.

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    • It really is a lovely relationship. Fingers crossed for you! x

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  4. Nieces and nephews are fabulous and you get to hand them back without any of the hassle. What’s not to love?! I adore my 12-year-old nephew too, he’s great company and I love spending time with him x

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    • How lovely! I’m so happy to have them in my life, I never would have guessed they would give us so much pleasure. x

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  5. Aw this is a lovely post Sarah. My two girls are lucky enough to have my little sister who was also 18 when my eldest was born and she absolutely adores them, and they adore her. I don’t have any nieces or nephews yet, but I can only imagine the love when it comes from a sibling you are close too. x

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    • Thanks very much! I know my sister and her husband have always been close to my kids, but I didn’t properly understand the bond until they had kids. I hope you get your nieces and nephews at some point in the future, they really are very special. x

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  6. Ah Sarah, I welled up at this. How lovely! I really don’t think I would can say the same about my husband and my sister’s kids. Shame. I do think it’s difficult to love other people’s kids as much as your own, even if they are your own flesh and blood. I think this is wonderful though. Thank you for sharing. Something to aspire to! Gorgeous pic of your niece too! x

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    • Comment have guessed they would give us so much pleasure and be such an important part of our lives. I guess having them geographically so close helps, as does the fact they are so much younger than our own kids, so no need for comparison – favourable or unfavourable!
      My daughter took the pic – I love it 🙂

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  7. Lovely post, and it so matches our relationship with our nephews and niece. We have 6 altogether (5 boys, 1 girl who’s also my god-daughter, and the OH was chosen by one of the boys as his godfather) They’re all older than N because I wasn’t sure I wanted children, so really they were our equivalent – with none of the messy bits, tantrums etc.

    They all live within 2 miles of us, so we see them all the time. N loves them all, and they all look after him so well. The eldest (now 16) we asked to be one of N’s godparents too which is really nice for them to have that relationship too.

    Aside from N, they’re really the only kids I could put up with for any amount of time!

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    • That sounds amazing to have so many of them around and it’s lovely to have such a close relationship with them. You can tell from reading your 365 posts what a big part of your lives they are – there always seems to be a nephew there! Knowing how much my niece adores and looks up to my kids, I can just imagine how important N’s big cousins are to him!

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    • Thank you! I had no idea how lovely it would be 🙂

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  8. Ah, lovely! I became an auntie to two nephews before I became a mum, and I’ve since had two more nieces and one more nephew. Some on my side of the family and some on my husband’s. Like you, I love them just as I love my own children. It’s such a privilege to be a part of their lives. We don’t get to see all of them that often due to geography, but with modern technology, it’s easier now than ever to keep connected to what they are doing. I love that all the children are friends as well as cousins too. I also had close relationships with some of my own aunties and uncles, and I can see now how they must have felt when I was younger. x

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    • That’s lovely to have had that relationship as a child too. We didn’t have that sort of relationship with our aunties and uncles and cousins, so I had no idea what a lovely relationship it could be. I’m so glad we’ve got our niece and nephew on the doorstep, it really is a privilege to be part of them growing up.

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  9. I love being an Aunt, I never thought I’d be one as I’m an only child, but my husband has a sister and she has three children. Two of which are very close to my kids and I am to them, it’s lovely. I imagine it’s that way as a grandparent too x

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    • It’s lovely, isn’t it? A real honour. I imagine being a grandparent would be even better. x

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  10. It’s lovely to read how close you all are. I was very close to my nieces when they were young but then my brother moved one way and us the other. They also became teenagers! I’m not the cool auntie anymore :0(

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    • That’s disappointing! I don’t think any of us will move away, so we will always be geographically close, so hopefully we will all still be good uncles and aunties. x

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  11. That is so gorgeous. I think it is amazing that you are all so close and that you have that relationship. I love my nephews and niece, we don’t see them very often but enough to be quite close. Two of them come and stay with us for a week in the summer holidays and we love having them, they just slot in like part of the family.

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  12. That is so gorgeous. I think it is amazing that you are all so close and that you have that relationship. I love my nephews and niece, we don’t see them very often but enough to be quite close. Two of them come and stay with us for a week in the summer holidays and we love having them, they just slot in like part of the family.

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