My sliding doors

Nearly two years ago, I started this blog. When I got up in the morning, I had no idea I was going to start a blog. If I hadn’t started it then, would I ever have started it? Would I ever have discovered how much I enjoy writing, met so many amazing people both online and in real life and realised that people actually quite like reading what I write? I’m not sure that I would. Yet it’s almost impossible for me to imagine a life without blogging now.

In life there are so many of these sliding doors moments – decisions taken on a whim or due to some outside influence that change just a little bit of your life.

I am now in my fourth summer of wearing purple Crocs flip flops pretty much every day (I’m on my second pair and have also recently invested in a black pair, which are ever so slightly more suitable for work). Did I consciously choose to buy purple Crocs flip flops? No, I bought them because I’d lost a suitcase full of shoesย in Italy and Italian women have really tiny feet and I was desperately in need of shoes that fit. When I put my feet in them after a stressful hour or more trying to buy shoes, they felt like the best thing ever. They still do.

When my daughter started school, my husband signed me up for a half marathon. He didn’t really ask me, he just did it. Sinceย then, I’ve been running two half marathons a year – one in spring and one in autumn. In between times, I run anyway, as I have done all of my adult life. But for nearly half the year I am running very long distances – eight miles or more – twice a week to train for a half marathon. Running is a big part of my life and I love it, but if my husband hadn’t signed me up for that first half marathon, would I be running half marathons twice a year now? I really don’t know.

Then there are the really big things. The things that shaped my family…

If I’d have been in the right catchment area, I’d have gone to grammar school and I wouldn’t have ended up doing my second-rate course at my second-rate university and I wouldn’t have met my husband and I wouldn’t have had my kids. Some kids, maybe. But not THOSE kids. Not my kids.

If I’d opted for more academic A Levels I wouldn’t have ended up doing my second-rate course at my second-rate university and I wouldn’t have met my husband and I wouldn’t have had my kids. Some kids, maybe. But not THOSE kids. Not my kids.

If my A Level predictions had matched my A Level grades I wouldn’t have ended up doing my second-rate course at my – you get the picture…

So my course was crap, my university was crap and the job I got at the end of it (and still have) isn’t all I would have hoped for. But maybe everything happens for a reason? Maybe I was supposed to go to that crappy university so that I could meet my husband and have my kids – the exact amazing andย annoying three kids I have.

When I think about it like that, everything happens for a reason. Apart from losing shoes. There can never be a reason for that.

Author: Sarah Mummy

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  1. It’s funny isn’t it the way certain things turn out. My life if full of similar moments too.

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  2. I am a great believer in fate. Perhaps to make rhyme or reason of things, but I do believe some things are meant to be and others you have to make happen yourself. But then was meant to be too; circular argument!

    I nearly went to live/work in Italy, instead I took the job where I met my husband etc etc. Imagine if I had gone to Italy instead! I’d never find any shoes….! x

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  3. What a lovely post! I am also a big believer in fate and everything happens for a reason although I’m not sure about the shoes either

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  4. What a great post. Yes we believe in all this too – and very glad I had such a rubbish start to make me end up where I am.

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  5. What a wonderful post Sarah. I truly believe that things happen for a reason – where one door closes, another opens. Thank you for linking up with #whatsthestory

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  6. I really believe in fate too. I think about this kind of stuff a lot and, in a way, I guess it stops you regretting things because it was all part of a bigger picture. I never realised you’ve been running for so long. That’s so impressive. I’ve only recently taken up exercise and feel so much better for it. And going back to the fate thing…this boy I know got onto the wrong course at uni because he put a letter wrong in the course code section. He decided he’d do it anyway and ended up making a good bunch of friends. It’s where he met his OH and we’re now married with Z.

    That’s density…I mean destiny ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  7. Life can pivot on such small things. I can pin a moment that changed my life to being playing the right song at the right time at work one day when I was 18. Without that chance conversation about a relatively obscure band I think I would have had an entirely different life!

    As for crap university, bollocks- you did it, you have a life and family you love, and a brilliant mind, and a creative outlet. Its all gooood! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. So true, life is full of ‘what if’ moments and I am a big believer in fate. Lovely post, and adorable Christmas photo!!

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  9. It will probably be no surprise to you that I don’t think these things are a coincidence….to me they are fate delivered by God. Strange how looking back all things happen for a reason isn’t it? Lovely post ๐Ÿ™‚ x

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  10. Fate….Jerry and I have been thinking the same thing since we met a LONG time ago. Life wouldn’t have been the same if his parents hadn’t moved in to the house next door! Sounds to me like your life wouldn’t be nearly as great without all those moments of fate!

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  11. Fabulous post, and I am so glad that your blog loads up on THIS laptop as it never did on my other one. So expect more commenting action from me now xxx

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  12. when my husband and I had been going out for a few months we got talking about how we used to go on Yahoo chat back in the days that that was the thing to do, and discovered we had briefly met online years before we met in real life. How bizarre is that?!?

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  13. What a fab post Sarah, i often think about the same things. I am a genuine believer in what is meant to be will be.

    Thanks for linking up with #magicmoments

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  14. What a wonderful post. I think you are absolutely right that everything happens for a reason, I even look back at the bad stuff and think about what it taught me. It all makes you the person you are. I’m very thankful for the decisions that led me to my husband!

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  15. Thanks very much, everyone ๐Ÿ™‚ I love all of your stories, too. Tas – your tale reminds me a bit of how I actually met my husband.
    Yours is an amazing coincidence, Judith.
    It is all good, Sonya, thanks ๐Ÿ™‚
    Suzanne – I’m not a religious person, but what you are saying makes a lot of sense!
    NMO – sorry to hear my blog didn’t load on your old laptop – there are blogs I have difficulty either reading or commenting on too for some strange reason and it seems such a shame!

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  16. No there sure is never a reason for losing shoes. And a whole suitcase no less??? God. Terrible. But after buying my own blue crocs last year I have to agree that they are very comfortable (and that was after swearing I wouldn’t be caught dead in them).
    I agree with you about the sliding doors moments in life. For me it’s less about my husband because we met on a blind date, but it is about the way our life went from that moment on…
    Great post ๐Ÿ™‚

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  17. I think you need to get over this crap university thing. That course was sought after and highly competitive to get on. You got on it, academia ain’t everything. Life is what you make of it, we create our own opportunities. You have and you’ve got something a lot of peoplet want, be proud. The running, it’s amazing!! I’m in awe. The lost luggage, not so ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  18. Great post. I truly believe in things like What’s meant for you will not go by you and everything happens for a reason.

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  19. It’s so funny how things work out. You were meant to be there and have those beautiful children ๐Ÿ™‚ I wish that my husband would take up running and I may enter him in to a run…

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  20. That’s one of those posts you wish you had thought about writing yourself… thoughtful and inspiring…

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  21. i believe that everything does happen for a reason and what great reasons you have!:)

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  22. You’re so right, those sliding doors moments are life altering. Sometimes you just have to let fate do it’s thing. x
    PS I’m so in awe of all your running!

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  23. I always think about things like this and how if one thing had been different then everything could now be different.

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  24. Thanks very much, everyone ๐Ÿ™‚
    Glad you agree with me on the Crocs, Orli! They may not be the most attractive thing, but they sure are comfortable.
    Thanks, Uley Girl, will let the crap university thing go – funnily enough I only seem to think about it when I’m blogging! But it inspired this post (as well as giving me three amazing children), so it has its uses.
    It’s weird to think about it, isn’t it, Gina?
    Thanks to everyone who is in awe of my running ๐Ÿ™‚

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  25. As far as ‘fate’ goes I’ll remain uncharacteristically quiet and diplomatic, but I do agree big trees grow from little acorns! Really good to hear that your acorns – whether blog, footwear of family related – have produced such healthy and life-affirming trees. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  26. I love this post. It’s so true.
    I always think about the fact that if my dad hadn’t walked out on us then I probably wouldn’t have met my husband.
    I wonder what would have happened if I hadn’t moved with my husband when he got a new job in a different county.
    Really interesting read.

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  27. Great post Sarah, when I look back I think everything happens for a reason too ๐Ÿ™‚

    If i never looked at a fashion article in a on line newspaper on a certain day I would have never clicked onto it to find a fashion challenge and found some amazing blogs. I never knew what a blog was then and I would never have started my blog.

    Same with family life too

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  28. Thanks very much, everyone. It’s amazing how these things really can change the course of our lives – for the better!
    Really appreciate your comments.

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